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Wedding Related advice needed

posted at 2/9/2012 4:53 PM EST on weddings.com

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Hi All,

(this is a repost, i couldn't see my previous one!)

Wondering if you can provide your thoughts and let me know if it seems sort of tacky...we are having our wedding at an all inclusive Sandals Resort (Negril, Jamaica). I am looking at their packages for a reception and it includes several choices from a 2 hour cocktail hour at $15pp to a sit down dinner at $50+pp. I can also get a DJ for about $300 and other add on's (outside vendors are not allowed). I was thinking it is a bit absurd to have to pay $50+pp for a reception for dinner at an all inclusive resort, where food and drink are all included in the price! (FI and I are definitely staying there and most guests will most likely be staying there). An alternative idea to a reception that I had was to take the money that would be spent on that and put it toward treating our guests to an exciting excursion.

How does it sound to you all? Having our guests fly out for a wedding ceremony, which is followed by cake and a champagne toast (included in the wedding package) and substituting a reception with an excursion?

Also, what if we couldn't afford it all together and just had the wedding ceremony with no reception and no excursion, I think this is a "tacky" situation (for lack of a better word at the moment). This most likely is not a scenario, but I wanted feedback on this as well. Other suggestions are also welcome!

My concern is having people spend money on the trip for just a small ceremony and nothing following :-\\\\ the future Mrs. Jones

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posted at 2/9/2012 5:00 PM EST on theknot.com

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I got lucky......I have a small enough guest list that we are just having dinner at one of the restaurants on property. No fancy reception. Then we plan to go bar hopping (playa del carmen) after dinner. Keeping it simple.

I think what you do for your guests is VERY dependent on what time your ceremony will be. If your ceremony is over around dinner time you really should provide a meal. But if you do an early afternoon ceremony it leaves more room for not feeding people an actual meal. I think an excursion would be a GREAT idea. I know I would enjoy that. Could you do a boat trip with cocktails? Like a cocktail reception at sea?

I do NOT think it's ok to do nothing. Do what's in your budget but at least have the cake and champagne afterward.

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I agree with the timing thing. Even though the resort is all inclusive, is it like a cruise where the "nice" dinner is at X time, but you can get pizza and burgers all night long? If you can time it to have the toast, then go to dinner all together, that would be great. I completely understand not wanting to pay the $50pp! But I also agree the excursion thing might be nice too. Are there any evening cruises available?

I'm sure my rambling didn't help you at all.

Just because you saw it on Four Weddings, doesn't mean it's a good idea.

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posted at 2/9/2012 5:32 PM EST on theknot.com

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I do think if people come out all that way you should feed them a meal. I'd probably want a real meal before going out on an excursion however. Certainly, doing nothing, is not an option like you said.

Where is the food that is part of the all inclusive compared to this $50/pp dinner they'd offer? On the same grounds?

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posted at 2/9/2012 5:42 PM EST on theknot.com

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Ditto on PP comment about needing to feed people a full meal if they're coming that far. An excursion sounds like a blast if it includes food.

I totally get the frustration with looking at how much the food would be, but maybe think of it not necessarily as a food cost, but as a location rental. If you have a wedding back home, you usually have to pay a fee to rent a location, so I thought of it like that.

Otherwise, maybe start checking out some restaurants outside of the resort to see if there's anything more in line with your budget. But I would be nervous for the drink total getting out of hand somewhere offsite.

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I kind of feel like having a destination wedding means doing more than usual for your guests. But the guest count is usually smaller with a DW...which can mean more affordable if need be. I think you would be okay with doing an excursion after the wedding. I like the idea of having cocktails ! It could be a cocktail excursion ! I know a lot of excursions offer some kind of food too so guests would not be hungry. Sounds fun =)

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I agree with PPs, the idea of an excursion that includes cocktails sounds like a great alternative! Have you looked into what options you have?

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I think it depends on what you want. When I started getting the pricing for all of the extras (and getting over the shock that we have to pay for bar packages as well at my all-inclusive!), I was considering cutting it, but I decided that I wanted the full "wedding experience" The prices do start to add up, but considering our guest list is so much smaller than what it would be at home, we are going to go ahead with it.

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I think it's important to feed your guests a meal but I think an excursion would be a blast!

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My resort is all-inclusive. The resort is charging the $60 per person and that did not include the decorations or the speakers. I spoke to my bridal party because like you that is ridiculous the guest paid for their food when they paid to stay there. And all of my guest are staying. Plus we plan to have a reception when we get back.

We opted to reserve apart of one of the resturants for a nice lunchoen. I thought it was a little unfair but those I asked that were going and some that was not going though it was ridiculus too. As it comes out. You pay 60 per person to have a set menu of two or three items. With a dinner you can pick anything on the menu.

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Wait a minute....."You pay 60 per person to have a set menu of two or three items. With a dinner you can pick anything on the menu. "

So if you pick a SET menu it's $60 per person, but if you just reserve a table in the restaurant and order off the full menu it's no charge? That makes NO sense. One would think it's easier for the resort to have a set menu to prepare.

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posted at 2/10/2012 10:17 AM EST on theknot.com

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The wedding package itself comes with champagne, cake and "cold" hors d'oeuvres. However, I do agree with you all that we should have something extra.

The ceremony is going to be at 5pm sooo...

Shannon- Love the idea of a cocktail reception at sea! I think "hot" food should also be included in something like this as well given the hour of the ceremony

Adktd2boots- that is a good question, I didn't even think about the fact that a "nice" dinner would probably only be be available at a certain time...I will look into this!

Ginadog- I believe the food/reception is on the resort grounds, which is why I was a bit put off by having to pay an additional charge for food that is included in the cost to stay at the resort. I will confirm this with the resort/wedding planner (I have an appointment to speak with them in a couple of weeks)

Saric- this is a great idea! I will start doing research for locations outside of the resort that I can maybe rent out for the reception.

This really helps thanks so much! In the end, FI and I definitely want to have something nice, esp since people are willing to take time off from work to fly down. This includes not having our guest go hungry after the ceremony lol! I guess it's like Nicole said...get over the initial shock of how everything keeps adding up, lol! Thanks for the suggestions!!

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