Ugh!!! I'm so freaking frustrated right now. So over a month ago, I asked my mom, dad, and FMIL for guest lists. The ONLY person to get back to me (in a few days mind you) with a complete and total list of who I was looking for on that particular side of the family, was my dad. He did forget one person, which I asked about when I saw him, and he immediately got up, put the address down and handed me the paper. My FMIL sent me a sort of list with names only, some even without last names. I'll be getting the complete list from her tomorrow. And lastly, my mom has been just a pain in my side about this whole thing. I told her, I want to keep it small. However, she doesn't care and seems to think I should invite everyone anyways whether I think they will come or not. Now she is paying for our venue, so she does have some say in it. But I just got a semi list from her and on it are cousins (yes they are first cousins) that I haven't had any form of communication with (including facebook) in over ten years. They are all apparently married (didn't know that at all, except I knew one of them was), and I think they all have kids, but I'm not sure. I don't know their kids' names, and I couldn't pick them out of a line up. Not one of them sent an invite to me for their wedding, not once have I even gotten so much as a christmas card from any of them. My mom gets them from them, because she is their aunt, but that is it. So I sent her back an email with a "hey this is super awkward, I haven't spoken to any of them in over a decade." and she comes back with how this is a great time to reconnect and how wonderful they all are and I should be in contact with them. She said I could get basic Christmas cards, and write a note to them letting them know what is going on. Which I guess is fine. I just think its really crappy that my mom has gone to an effort to get their addresses so I could send them an invite when they sure as hell never went to the effort to send me one. Hell, I don't even know if my older brother invited them to his wedding, and that was at least held in the same state that everyone lives in! In fact one of the cousins, I don't even have his full address, and the information came from my Uncle, his dad! I really don't want to waste the money to even send an invite to them when I know they won't show up. Ugh I'm so close to tears and I don't even know why!! Okay, rant over. I'll just suck it up, be an adult and send them effing cards and invites.