So my FIL remarried after my fiances mom died of cancer 17 years ago. From everything I have heard there is no comparison between the two women. My FIL's wife is a bit of a drunkard and we have already had to have a talk with her about not acting/speaking inappropriately due to intoxication. In any case my fiancé longs for his mother and in no way sees the new wife as any type of a mother figure. Although the new wife is harmless and for the most part a decent person they are of no where near the same caliber of woman. So today she texted me and said she is shopping for a "mother of the groom dress." Now I know this is typical wedding jargon but if she ever said this to my fiancé or close friends of his it would be so insulting and possibly argument inducing. I should include she made a huge fuss about not being part of the wedding party. And by huge fuss I mean declining the engagement party invite my family extended to them (she changed her mind once she found out she gets to walk down the isle to her seat) for the party they are hosting. Did I mention that the FIL and wife are not participating/ hosting any party of the wedding other than the endless questions and answer sessions they regularly subject us to.
Soooo......help how do I handle these people? How do I stop her from ever, ever referring to herself as mother of the groom again?
Thanks