I'm really stuck and don't know what I should do about a BM who has completely stopped communicating with me.
The back story - we became friends about 5 years ago when we worked together, I was in her wedding and helped her plan all of her functions and even helped her with other weddings she's been in for people I don't even know. She's always been a little self-centered and we don't have as much time to talk anymore, but I'm getting kind of upset about the intentional snubbing lately. In hindsight I shouldn't have asked her so far from the wedding, but you can't unask someone now.
I know I still have plenty of time before my wedding (next September) but my MOH and other BM are in the process of shopping for and ordering BM dresses and this one BM won't return email, calls, or texts. I invited her to my dress shopping and never got a response. It was fine if she couldn't attend, I know she has her own life, but to get no response not even "sorry I have other plans" was disappointing. I've sent her several messages about doing wedding things and non-wedding things, specifically asked her for some time to talk on a specific date and time and again got no response.
I don't want to be rude and 'kick her out' of the wedding, but it seems as though she's intentionally removing herself in the most passive way possible. I'd like to ask another girl who's become a great friend, but I want to know for sure that this BM is bowing out. I've considered sending her an email or letter asking if she still plans to be apart of my wedding and that I need to know before the holidays, but again, I don't want it to be seen as rude even through she's being rude to me by ignoring me. It seems like she's not interested in continuing our friendship, or there could be personal issues happening that she's not telling me about. I really just don't know how to approach her, I feel like I'm darned if I do and darned if I don't.
Any advise?