Ok, my MOH has added her 20 year old son and his fiance to my wedding list. I do not believe that he should be invited because, 1) He does not live at her house 2) I do not really know him like I do her youngest son 3) She says they want to go to as many weddings as possible before they get married (next year) 4) I did not put EITHER of their names on the invitation I sent her. How do I tell her nicely that I do not want him and her there and it is very improper for her to assume they be invited?
Also, she is insisting that a few things for me that she is doing (decorating a pair of Keds for me for the reception as well as making a box and putting a sash on the flower girls dress) should remain a "surprise" for me until the day of rehearsal. I am FREAKING out here! She is not crafty and all I ask is to see the shoes a month before so we can tweek them together if they are "trashy" looking or I can just get another pair of shoes to wear for the reception. She is wanting me to be surprised by all this stuff until the last day and it is just freaking me out! I don't want any surprises on that day. Am I wrong or freaking out for no reason? HELP!!!!