(As 3 venues was a no) I need some help trying to sort this out
Obviously we need to do the legal married bit which here has to be in a building registered to conduct marriages (lots of places have licences, hotels, historic buildings, city hall etc)
We then need to feed the guests, it has to be a sit down meal (usually between 1 and 3pm)
And then we have the bit after the meal with dancing and all that stuff which will pobably go on till 12 ish with a buffet (this bit usually has far far more people at, it usually starts around 7ish. I know the 2nd lot of people is not the done thing on here, however in the spirit of full disclosure I thought I should say, it is the way that weddings here are done and people expect it - typically the people invited to just the evening are not OOT, that would be thought of as rude)
(not a short time either can start anywhere between 11 and 1 typically - weddings here go on a long time)
Doing the stuff above isnt an issue and I could book somewhere nice very easily
But FI is from SA and is a Zulu which means he really wants to do a bit that is a 'traditional' (as much as we can) zulu wedding. Which I dont really understand and he is taking control off but we need a big space for it and need to serve food that isnt stereotypical buffet stuff (apparently a cow or a goat is killed, that isnt allowed obviously but we need to serve beef or goat and he wants other traditional food as well)
So please help