After enough time spent on these message boards I feel its time to share my PPD nightmare story. A good friend of mine told me he met a girl and within 3 months they were engaged. The live in a different state so my FI and I went to visit so I could meet her. While visiting my friend expressed how happy it would make him for us to attend their wedding and making a second trip. I told him we would be happy to. A month or so after our trip I got an email from his FI telling me I had to get to DB to get my bridesmaid dress before X date to be sure I got it in time. I was totally shocked, not once did either of them actually ASK me to be in the wedding. I went along with it because I felt bad since he and I have known eachother for so long. So after conversing with him I agreed to be in the wedding. After I ordered my dress the other bridesmaids expressed they could not afford dresses and eventually the bride had to change the color because there wasnt enough time for the rest of the girls to get the right dress. I had to call DB and change my order and got charged a fee which the bride told me she just could not compensate for since funding was low for them. Fast forward to wedding weekend. My FI and I show up only to be split up for a hen party the night before the wedding which I was not financially prepared for. While at the party the Bride was telling me she and my friend had gotten married 2 months prior for insurance reasons. I WAS TAKING PART IN A PPD THAT I HAD NO IDEA ABOUT!!!!!!!!! I pretty much ignored her and her friends the rest of the night and bit my tongue to get through the rest of the weekend. On top of all that I never received any sort of gift of thanks for being in the wedding and we never received a thank you for our gift to them and our time and money to travel to their stupid PPD. Pretty sure it ruined my relationship with them forever!