Edited to include warning: I'm sorry about the length of my post. I tend to write a lot when I get hyped up & frustrated.
I am generally thankful that both FI and I have relatively non-existent family drama. We both like each others family. Wedding planning has gone very smoothly without ANY real problems or complaints. Which is good since we both have VERY low tolerance for drama or drama queens. The one glitch in my family drama is my cousin. She is as over-dramatic and fake as they come. She is a chronic liar, over-exaggerates everything, and always has to be the center of attention. She always has dramatic health issues (her cancer was miraculously cured in a couple weeks with no invasive treatments!). She likes to play herself off as super mom (not even close). Lies about college degrees and careers she doesn't have (I'm sorry, a 2 week online class does not get you a bachelors or masters degree). You can never believe anything she says and you usually have to pick everything she says apart in search of the grain of truth that might be buried there.
Most of my family lives out of state, except for a few family members that live near me, including this cousin & her mom. So, we usually get together with my local family for Christmas. So, we got together this year for dinner. We didn't really expect any gifts because most of my family out here is retired, on social security, and struggle just to pay their bills. I only brought some baked goods for everyone, too, so I didn't really bring any gifts either. Anyway, apparently after the get together, my cousin tells my aunt that I was really disappointed that she didn't buy me anything. My aunt was so upset that she sent me a message saying that she was really sorry to disappoint me and she will buy me something in the morning. She also called my mom crying because she was so hurt by it and she really can't afford anything right now. Seriously??!! I didn't even talk to my cousin after the get-together and certainly am not upset about not getting a gift. I know my aunt is struggling financially and would rather she keep her money. For the past couple years I've even been trying to convince my parents not to buy us christmas presents anymore. We are even requesting no gifts from anyone for our wedding! So, after my mom talked to my aunt, she called me and was very upset that anyone would accuse me of saying that, who she knows to be a very giving person and would never be upset about not getting a gift. And now I am so pissed off at my cousin about this. I've never been close to her and haven't particularly liked her, but I had no problem tolerating her for the family get-togethers once or twice a year. Now, I honestly am debating boycotting any future family events, except I know that it would hurt my aunt & rest of the family. And my FI is so pissed about it that I really don't think I will ever be able to drag him to another family event with her there again. I've also already invited all of them to attend my wedding. I debated uninviting her, but I know that would be beyond rude and create even more drama. And I don't believe rudeness is the correct response to rudeness. We seriously debated not inviting her in the first place, but decided it would be rude not to include her since she is part of the few family members that live near me and I was inviting everyone else. It's just a few hours and we don't need to even talk to her, so might as well let her come. Plus, I think my aunt is relying on my cousin for transportation to the wedding (wedding is out of town), so I'd hate to make ruin the chances for my aunt to attend if she wants to. But, I can't believe that she would do something like that (well, with her I can almost believe it). Even to tell her mom that she was disappointed that she didn't get a gift is really bad, but then she had to drag me into it too just pisses me off beyond belief. I don't know if there is really any way to cut her out without hurting others, or if I just need to suck it up and tolerate her... or I am very tempted to just call her up and tell her off for being such a rude & needy b%^$*. I usually push anybody with constant drama out of my life, but its tough to do with family.
Okay, I feel a little better after venting, but not much.