We are not having a wedding rehearsal because we don't think it's necessary. However, FMIL said that she and FFIL want to host a party for us anyway, in place of a rehearsal dinner. She said not the night before the wedding (which is fine with me, I'd rather be relaxing) but maybe the Saturday of the weekend before or the Weds or Thursday of the week of the wedding (the wedding is on a Saturday). She said she would invite my immediate family and our wedding party, and FI's immediate family plus aunts/uncles/cousins. The thing is, we are already having a small wedding (85 guests), FI has lots of aunts and uncles and I feel like this party is going to end up being 30-40 people, or almost half of our wedding guests.
I really appreciate the thought but I'm wondering if people are going to think this party is odd given that there's no rehearsal and our actual wedding, where all of these guests will be attending, is just a few days later. I don't want to hassle our friends and family to feel obligated to come out to this. Would you side eye it if you were a guest?
Everyone is generally local, but some may have an hour+ drive to get to this party and our wedding.