My Godmother is throwing my shower for me at her home in CT ( my wedding and grooms family is in Central NJ)...My GM told me she would feel comfortable with a list of about 40-45 ppl.. which sounded great to me, I don't like big parties centered around myself anyways...
My mother has a list of about 23 or so of my aunts, some cousins and very close family friends.. My list is my bridesmaids (6) and about 6-7 of my close friends... I told my FMIL that she could invite my fiances 2 grandmothers, and 4 aunts..
My FMIL then went ahead and asked ME if she could invite 6 more ppl- their first cousins.. I was getting stressed out about the whole thing and annoyed that she was asking me when she should have went straight to my mother about it ( brides aren't supposed to be involved in the planning process at all, I thought)...
my question is... if we told the FMIL the # she can have.. and I know shes annoyed or pissed about it..then how many ppl should the groom's side be able to invite? My mother suggested she could have a small shower for me in NJ if she wanted to invite more ppl and that suggestion didn't go over very well either.. Do I need to feel bad about this or is my FMIL confused on the fact that the bridal shower is for the Bride and primarily her family?