I have kind of been avoiding going over to my dad's
back story:
My parents are divorced, they hate each other. My dad has been the kind of person to promise things and never everpull through. For many years he bailed on child support. My mother finally put in on ASUME which is part of the government to kind of "force" people to pay their child support. We always struggled because my mother is not good at managing finances but since my mom's family had money my dad assumed they would support us. Fast forward to 2011 a fight broke out between me and both my parents and I took a stand and convinced my mother to take him to court to settle the child support debt of over 25k. Back and foprth he made some payments but about 6 months ago he came up to court with some health issues and now he was diagnosed with cirrhosis caused by some auto immune diseases he did not know he had.
He is in process of getting on the UNOS transplant list. He wants me to go over to settle the debt with an arrangement using my grandmother's house as
"pay". I really dont understand most of the financial and legal stuff that is going on with that but I know his health is more important right now than any needs I may have. His family want to force me to be his next of kin and to take all the responsibility for him. We have never been truly close. I want and will be there for him but I dont know how involved I want to be.
right now I am feeling really bad about everything, overwhelmed and confused. If you have read this thanks.
***UPDATE***
I went by yesterday it it was much better than I expected. He was more straightforward than other times when talking about what he needs to do and get done. Since I am very tired of all the fighting and right now he needs to focus on his health I agreed to the promissory note of the remaining debt and told him I would not want all the responsibility to fall on me. He said he is going to start a project and wants to involve FI, if he wants to, to be his partner in this business. I reinforced FI that he doesnt need to do anything he feels uncomfortable with. It went much better than expected. I still feel very awkward with the whole situation.