I'm the MOH for my best friend, and of course I was delighted when she asked me, but some of the things she wants me to do for her are a bit overkill, I think.
Before she asked me to be her MOH, my FI and I offered to throw her and her FI and engagement party, and although there's only 22 people attending, and we're having it at our home, it's still costing us £500 (around $820) which was fine, we were quite happy to do that. It's happening tomorrow. When she asked me to be her MOH, we started talking about her hen party, and she told me she wants to go stay in London for the weekend, and because I "have the most money" (when I actually earn less than her) she thinks it would only be fair for me to pay for both me and her and any "extra costs" for everybody (not really sure what she means by this). So that's another £800+ (around $1.320+). Now since we live in Britain, I wasn't going to host a bridal shower, because it's just generally not done. BUT she wants me to host one of those as well, in a posh restaurant, and expects me to pay for all of it (it's £40 ($65) a head, there would be 20 of us going). And obviously I'm paying for my dress which is another £350 ($570).
Obviously I'm quite happy to pay for my dress, and for the engagement party, and to pay for my share and most of hers for the hen party, but I feel it's a little excessive to ask me to pay for all of her share of the hen party (it's it supposed to be shared equally among the bridesmaids?) AND to pay £800 for a bridal shower plus whatever presents I get her. I feel like she's asking too much of me, but please tell me if I'm in the wrong.