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What The Actual Fuck?

Ok so im probably going to get in trouble with the knot gods for swearing in the title but im pissed! I know ive already ranted about this but I clearly have some of the rudest invited guests on the planet.

Exhibit A: Guest who has been invited as one of my mums friends - who I dont even actually know - extends the wedding invitation to her 2 adult kids, who I also dont know and who dont know me or FI! Who DOES that? It gets better - I only find out about it cos the adult kids got in touch with mum as they were BOOKING THEIR FLIGHTS! Ummm.... where are you going? You're not invited!

Exhibit B: My very own lovely Aunt (Bless her), actually extends an invitation to her friend who I once again dont know as a... "hey, we're going to a wedding in Vegas! Wanna come?".

Do you think, I or FI were consulted about this? Who else has just randomly invited guests to our wedding?

Ive tried to remain calm but ive totally flipped! Is it just me who is dealing with this ridiculous behaviour? Is it just excited guests or a complete lack of manners and disregard for our privacy and budget? On the flipside the people asking if they can come.... why would they want to? I would never in a million years just go to somebodys wedding WHO I DONT KNOW uninvited whether in Las Vegas or Timbuctoo!

THIS SHIT IS WHY WE SHOULD'VE JUST ELOPED!

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  • Really? I have had people say, "hey! I'll come!" Which I find bad enough. I almost wanna say, "uh! You're not invited!" Maybe these people are coming for the trip and not actually going to intrude on your wedding day??? Here's to hoping!
  • I have no issue with people travelling to Vegas. They are more than welcome to travel as they please. That wouldnt bother me at all. But our wedding is a private invite only event. Im seriously going to get my coordinator to ask uninvited guests (ie if you do not have a place card at our reception) to leave. Friendship/Family ending move? Yes! But so is just turning up uninvited!

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  • Yikes! I figured a destination wedding would preclude crashers! I'd talk to the offending parties first and mention that the chapel only has room for so many. So while the uninvited guests can certainly come out to Vegas (please come out to Vegas and gamble, it pays for our schools), there won't be room for them at your wedding or reception, unless, of course, these uninvited guests want to pay for their plate. Normally, I'd see that as rude, but if they weren't invited and you don't even know them, then there's no reason to pay for their dinner.
  • I really dont agree with the whole "pay for their plate". If somebody is not invited, then they are not invited. I have spoken to the offending parties and I hope they have respected our wishes. Im just upset that I even had to have a discussion about this in the first place. I dont understand how people could feel so self-entitled as to actually invite a random to somebody else's wedding without even asking the hosts or bride/groom.

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  • I hope, for their sakes, they opt out of the ceremony and just enjoy the rest of Vegas. What do you think your groom would do? :)
  • So sorry mo! Ugh I would freak! I haven't had any of that thank god!
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  • That is a little classless. I would do guest list only to the wedding. If did not directly receive an invite you can't go in.
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  • I agree ladies. Unfortunately all this drama is on my side of the family cos traditionally weddings are huge and everybody who is even remotely related to you is deemed invited!

    My cousin had over 400 people at her wedding and I did some ushering at her reception to help her out and it was mayhem! We didnt want a huge wedding and it is rude and classless to impose additional guests. I hope we dont have any crashers but I have made it clear, I cant accommodate them.

    Why does this stuff have to be so difficult!

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  • I'm sorry you are dealing with this. I had a few people mention going who weren't invited but nothing like yours. One of my best friends even mentioned some of her friends might go to Vegas that weekend but before I could say anything she offered up they would not be joining any wedding festivities.
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  • I'm dealing with this...i actually posted a topic about this...the same exact situation happened, my MOH ( who has now backed out of my wedding b/c of this situation) invited her cousin to vegas ...cool you want to do that...but don't just think that she can come to the wedding/ after reception, party..i have no clue who this girl is...my MOH dropped out of my wedding b/c i did go to her and was like hey ( in the nicest way possible) i really don't know her so it might be a tad bit awkward. my MOH is the type who says she has no money but has posted on facebook every single week the trips she is taking, the clothes she is buying...etc ...you get my point on that. I am so pissed, hurt and angry with her...for one I am the most frugal person ever, BUT i will go above and beyond for my best friend especially on her wedding day...especially with a 7 month notice....you can put aside $10 a week ...sorry...totally didn't mean to hijack your thread
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  • wow, how can people be so rude?? We are still so far away at the moment,but I'm a huge upfront "bitch" and will tell people to shove it if they start inviting themselves... goodluck @missmo some people just suck!!
  • Im sorry you are going through this. Id have a list of invited people with a maître d standing at entrance. if your specific name isn't on the list then go away and you are escorted off.
  • missmo14 said:
    Ok so im probably going to get in trouble with the knot gods for swearing in the title but im pissed! 
    Don't worry, since doing away with moderators no one actually watches anything lol

    Married in Vegas - June 2011


  • Yep I'd have no issue booting someone who was not invited; ridiculous people would even think they could invite others without consulting you.  Funny thing happened at our wedding; some freeloaders from Mix Lounge wandered over to the restaurant (over or under the rope fence) and attempted to blend in and get some free booze or who knows what else (one was caught near our guest book table); fortunately the staff recognized they were not part of our party and had security remove them.  I would have never known they shouldn't be there because we had some guests bring +1's we'd not met.

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  • I think what surprises me the most about this happening to you is that Vegas isn't just a short trip or an inexpensive for y'all and you still have wedding crashers.
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  • @VG I love your wedding crashers story! At least those people were just being scummy opportunists - not premeditated guest rudeness lol. And @shoebunnie... I KNOW!! None of our guests live within driving distance of LV so people must just have a lot of time/money to burn wedding crashing.

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  • We had someone bring a friends and didn't even find out until the morning of the wedding...needless to say I was pissed. We ended up having space because a friend (that I have know for 18 years) got too drunk and passed out....she missed the whole wedding and reception!
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  • Holy shit! I would've been doubly pissed. Who gets pass out drunk before a wedding??!!! And the crasher situation is outrageous.

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  • missmo14 said:
    Holy shit! I would've been doubly pissed. Who gets pass out drunk before a wedding??!!! And the crasher situation is outrageous.
    We had three people not make it more than a few minutes into the reception before needing to be taken back to their rooms lol; apparently there were a lot of shots being done during cocktail hour.

    Married in Vegas - June 2011


  • Hahahahaha! Wow! How embarassing. My guests will start drinking at 4 then there is the 2 hour DDB then the reception... so I probably wouldnt be too surprised if some guests dont quite make it to the reception or get black out drunk by the end of the night.

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  • Oh no Mo what a nightmare!  I hope it all works out for you!  It's so horrible that you even have to be dealing with that!  We've had a couple of family members 'assume' they are coming even though they're not invited but we're pretty sure they won't come as they've not booked anything but who knows.  Mostly we've got the opposite problem, a lot of our really close friends who said they'd come appear to have now spent their funds on other holidays last year so there's nothing left to come to Vegas which is a shame as we don't live in the UK anymore so it was a good chance to catch up with them somewhere halfway!
  • I know that too. Ive got 2 really close girlfriends who have pulled out of Vegas which was super disappointing. My brother and FI's sister also cant travel, but we had an at home pre wedding party and got to celebrate with everybody then.

    Maybe you guys should have a little get together when you finally make the journey back to the UK.

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  • i'm a little bit worried on the drinking thing, i don't drink that much but know i will the night before...realllyyyy trying not to be all hungover and hating life the day of the wedding LOL
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  • lol oh yeah I was actually talking about if you neede alcohol for your gathering in your room for food and stuff :) I personally love to drink but I'm going to liit it the night before. My older sister is my MOH and keeps telling me I can't get too crazy haha
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  • oops I completely thought this was from your post about your check list post haha I'm such a dummy right now haha! sorry @ssteele04
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  • a13049a13049 member
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    We are totally in the same boat as you.  We have an ever growing guest list and I have decided I am done playing nice.  Anyone who hasn't gotten an invitation is NOT invited.  They can come to Vegas, but they will not be attending the wedding or any of our wedding related activities.  Why should I worry about being nice and showing ettiquette, when these people are being down right rude and disrespectful to me.  We have a weird issue because a girl who is an aquaintace of mine, ( her husband is childhood friend).  She  recently cheated on her husband and wants to bring this other weirdo to my wedding as a plus one.  She had been bragging all night long about her affair and how she never really loved her husband and just being down right tastelist, plus I was a few cocktails in and I told her, she could still come to the wedding if she wants, but the only reason she was invited was because we are friends with her soon to be ex. and her plus one is not invited and will not be allowed to come to any of our events.  She likes to start drama and my wedding was going to be a showcase for her.  I know its rude to uninvite someone, but at this point IDGAF!
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  • Ummmm..... wow!" Im gonna bring someone I cheated on my own marriage with to your wedding".... nice! Guests be crazy!

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  • Yeah I can't believe you're nice enough to still give her a spot; I'd boot her and her +1 lol

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  • The wedding isn't until July, so DH and I talked about still booting her and giving her husband a +1, but I think he is planning on traveling with a group of single guys and isn't at a point where he is wanting to date.  But alot can happen between now and July
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