So this is the first time I've posted on here, but I need to vent... I recently got engaged in December. I picked March 2015 for the wedding, but had to change it for his mom, so it's now in April 2015. So in little over a year I will be getting married.
. But, it seems like my FILs and FI are taking their time with everything, and I mean EVERYTHING. I am going to school full time along with working full time, so when I'm not doing homework or working, I am planning the wedding. I have asked for help many times and my family and his has been pretty good. But this is where the vent begins...
Towards the end of January I started planning. I would ask my FI for help, but he kind of just brushed it off. The colors of our wedding I had to pick, but let him pick them...if that makes sense. Then, I asked him if he could start his list and he was just like okay. Lets fast forward...
I scheduled my dress appointment at the first of Feb. for April, that way I have enough time for alterations and whatnot...(I HAVE to always plan ahead). Well after I made the appointment, I told my bridesmaids, that way they can come...FI's sister is a BM and when I told her, she asked if their step-mom could come too, so she can be apart of the wedding. I said yes. Well to be nice, I told his mom, who lives in a totally different state. She said she would come. So I have my mom, my three BMs, and his two moms...
Well his mom, real mom, said that she would help me out with the flowers. She's making ALL my bouquets, corsages, and the boutonnieres, which I am grateful! So she's doing that. I have centerpieces my friend is lending me for my reception. I have practically all that covered! Which I am happy for. Plus, my mom is getting my cakes.
Well a few weeks ago, my dad, who PROMISED me that he would help me buy my dress got fired from his job...He got in a huge fit with his boss. (Him and my mom are divorced.) So now I have to buy my dress... he won't talk to me about the dress thing at all... Whenever he talks to me, my dad, he would start a pity party about his life and so forth.. I don't need that right now. So I just kind of blow it off.
Also, all my FILs, are wanting me to just go to the JP or runaway and get married... I don't want to do that. They keep pestering me about that. His gparents either got married in a bowling alley, JP, or ranaway. I have a feeling they keep putting ideas in his head. Also, they keep telling me that we should do what we want to do and that they know we don't want a wedding... I keep asking FI if he wants a wedding, he tells me he wants me to just do what I want to do and if I'm happy he's happy...
Now this past weekend, my fiance and his sister were talking and got she offended when I bought a wine glass, for each of the mothers for their gifts, because I didn't get one for their step-mom... To be honest, I was going to get the step-mom and my dad's girlfriend different gifts. So I took some extra cash and bought one for her to please his sister... Maybe I shouldn't have? It was just aggravating...I know you get the gifts for step-parents, but I had other ones in mind, and the glasses were just for the birth mothers...
And yesterday, I asked FMIL if she could help my FI with his guest list, because I still haven't received it... She them proceeds to tell me that she's busy and that we still have time to do it later... I told her I didn't want to swamp her with that. I then texted my FI, "Do you think you can have your guest list done by this weekend?" He tells me, "Nope." Then tells me he may have 50 people, maybe less. He then says he won't have anything until this spring or summer because that's when he will see them all and he will find out who will be going and not... I then explained that not what you do... He gets in a mood with me, asking why we didn't do that this weekend. Every time I try to talk wedding with him, he gets irritated and says, "I can only handle so much at once..." OR he walks out of the room and does something else... Even when I talked to him about the budget... I tell him everything and I try to help him out with different things on what he's supposed to be in charge of and whatnot... He even got pissed off at me because I didn't really want an open bar...(my family aren't really drinkers...now his family, that's a different story...) I just don't have that kind of money. I told him we can do a thousand or two tab at the bar, but once it's out, the families can buy their own... FI still didn't like that. I got to the point where I said if he wants an open bar, he can pay for it, I'm not, I don't have that kind of money. Plus, I don't want to take care of drunk people at OUR wedding.
Sorry, but I seriously had to vent.
And I know our wedding isn't until April 2015, but I would rather plan ahead, and not get overwhelmed...