I'm so tired of guests (and my parents) assuming that if invited guest A can't come, then that means uninvited guest B can take their place instead. Does this happen to anyone else?
FI and I are having a small wedding of 50 guests, and the save the dates have been sent. My parents (who are paying for a substantial portion of the wedding) were fine with our guest list, which included my aunts & uncles but not cousins. All of my extended family lives far away, so I wasn't really expecting them to attend. BUT I am still not wanting to over-invite, since our venue space is limited.
That being said, my mom called to say that my aunt "and family" are making plans to attend, and I had to remind her that cousins were not invited (they are all adult cousins, btw). Then she goes on to say that my uncle probably won't come, so one of the cousins can attend instead. Ok. Fine.
And my dad keeps contemplating a scenario where my grandparents might attend if another one of my cousins decided to go with them. I replied with the standard, "Ummm, but the cousin is not invited??" He claims this can happen because his sister and brother-in-law will likely not attend, so there would be space.
I'm sure I'm probably overreacting, but I just find it very very annoying. Is it common for people to feel entitled to substitute other guests? Maybe I'm just annoyed because people assume they can do this. Ultimately it is family so I will let it go. But FI and I wanted to make a blanket statement of "no cousins are invited due to space" so that other cousins would not feel left out. Blahhhh.