Young Flower Girls

Kimmy1018

Are any of you ladies planning on having young flower girls? If so, how are you incorporating them into the ceremony at the church? My three nieces will be one,two & 18 months. I'm considering just having them be apart of the pictures or possibly putting them in a wagon down the aisle ( the church will allow) or having a bridesmaid hold there hands together to walk down. Any suggestions I appreciate! Thanks

chelseamb11

Our nephew was our ring bearer at 18 months.  SIL (his mom) escorted him down the aisle.  I'd just check with your priest to see if there are any rules.  I like the wagon idea, but I don't know if they'd be okay with it.

Tami87

Personally I think that may be too young to expect them to make it down the aisle. I would be prepared for them to get scared or have a breakdown. If you insist on having them in the procession I would make sure someone they know well that can walk with them or is able to carry them if needed (this might be more difficult with 3). I think it would be way easier to just get them some cute dresses and include them in pictures. We had one flower girl that was 5, and no ring bearer. I got the impression from the priest that married us that he is often hesitant when couples want to include young children in the processional because it rarely goes well and the kids often don't understand what is going on. He was shocked that our five year old flower girl walked down fine by herself smiling and even remembered to bow before sitting in the pew with her mom and dad. It definitely depends on the kid and what they are able to handle, but in general I think kids who are asked to be in the wedding party should be old enough to understand what their role in the wedding is and be able to communicate that they want to participate.

I understand that your nieces are all really important to you but I think just getting some great pictures with them will go much smoother than trying to get them down the aisle.

lalaith50

IMHO, I don't think there is anything "cute" about a screaming kid being dragged down an aisle at a wedding.

tesgirl123

You could have the escorted down the aisle by a bridesmaid or groomsman, which will help the girls feel more comfortable than walking by themselves, and help keep them under control.  

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Are you having a ring bearer? If so and he is perhaps a little older, they could all walk together holding hands or linking arms. We had 2 FG's and 1 RB. Our 1 FG was very, very shy and small for her age. The 3 kiddos walked together and it was just fine.

professorscience

We didn't have a flower girl or ring bearer, but our niece and nephew (4 and 8, respectively, at the time) helped carry the gifts for communion with their mother and aunt. I don't remember what our niece carried, but it helped to have her mom and big brother (who she apparently watched the whole time they were walking) right there with her.

I definitely prefer including children that way - they walk up the aisle and then they sit down. Obviously if you're not having mass, you can't do that, but I think it's best to limit the time the kids have to stand around.

missmarissa14

I am kind of dealing with the same thing. My flower girl will be 18 months at my wedding but I don't know if she will be able....it is really young. I was also advised that the wagon can be dangerous. I initially had the same thought. I was thinking of having the ring bearer pull her in a wagon. We will probably just have her in pictures.