So back in October when I picked out my flowers, I decided to get all of the grandparents a corsage or boutineer. FH's grandpa passed away a long time before I even met him and I haven't ever met his grandma in the last 6 years that we've dated. She doesn't live that far away (3 and half hours maybe?), it's just something happened between FH's parents and her after his grandpa passed away and they haven't been close since.
I had planned on getting her a corsage to wear because even though I've never met her, she's still a grandparent. However, my dilemma is with her live in boyfriend. Do I have to get him something to wear too? Through the first 5 years of our relationship, I've heard nothing but bad things about him. Now that we're getting married, the future inlaws have completely changed their tune for what I find ridiculous reasons, but that's nothing new.
FH and I have talked about it and he doesn't want the boyfriend to have a flower or be in our pictures. Not that it's up to me but I don't really want him in any pictures either. Back when I was like 12 when we had a big group family photo, my uncles new wife decided to include her 26 year old daughter, her boyfriend and their kid (all of who we'd never met). About 2 years after that, my uncle got a divorce, the daughter left her boyfriend because he's a crack dealer and we're stuck with an otherwise awesome picture if it wasn't for them being in it. I'm not saying this boyfriend of FH's grandma will be a drug dealer but I just don't want pictures with strangers unless they're legit family.
His parents threw a fit when they found out FH didn't want to get him a boutineer. My parents are paying for the flowers and am sure they could careless about another $12 but it's just the principal of the thing. What would you do?