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This is the etiquette on inviting ANYONE to your wedding:1. You invite whomever you want to invite. No one has a right to an invitation, unless they are paying for your wedding.2. Your invitations MUST include the wives/husbands/fiancees/ significant others of your guests. Whenever possible, you should include both names on the invitation.That's all.
Invite them if you want to. Don't invite them if you don't want to. You don't have to invite all of your coworkers, and if you invite coworkers, you don't have to invite your boss, etc.It's definitely something to be a little careful of, though. I've worked in environments where if I invited a few people from work, but not everyone, my work life would have gotten much worse, and I've worked in environments where my boss would have expected an invitation. So it really depends on the dynamic.It's usually a good idea to err towards not inviting people from work unless you're really close, or you're having, like, a 350 person wedding and inviting everyone you know.
I have one of my coworkers as a bridesmaid and will be inviting one of my supervisors that I am close to and that is it. I guess it depends on the dynamic of your work relationships. Another great idea is to hold a stag and doe - some people are against raising money for a wedding, but its a good way to include them in a part of your wedding if they won't be there on the day of.
have one of my coworkers as a bridesmaid and will be inviting one of my
supervisors that I am close to and that is it. I guess it depends on
the dynamic of your work relationships. Another great idea is to hold a
stag and doe - some people are against raising money for a wedding, but
its a good way to include them in a part of your wedding if they won't
be there on the day of.
All the coworker weddings I've been invited to,
I was emailed or pulled aside privately to ask my home address, and
told I'd be getting an invite in the mail, but that not everyone was
getting one, and asked not to discuss it at work.Edit: I guess
there was one wedding where the bride had an open invitation to the
whole office, posted an invite in the breakroom, and asked anybody who
would like to attend to RSVP by XXX date. I wasn't that close to her
and did not attend.
I am struggling with this right now. I have several coworkers that I consider good friends that I would like to invite, but then I feel like I have to invite everybody and I just can't. I like all of my coworkers, but certainly can't afford to invite them all to my relatively moderate budget wedding. I have decided not to invite any coworkers, even the ones I consider friends. It was easier to rule out the entire coworker category, rather than only pick the ones I like best as that could be hurtful to some.
I invited my boss and 5 of my six co-workers; the one who wasn't invited will have only been working there about 2 months and I have never spent time with her outside of our work shifts (not even coffee on a break). I also invited their husbands and children. We have a really small group of preschool teachers, and even though my boss has been driving me BSC lately, I like her as a person outside of work.
That being said, out of the 20 invites that went to this group, only 9 people will be attending. I invited all my co-workers to my shower, as well-I've been to their baby showers/kids' birthday parties-but didn't invite my boss.
I'm a teacher, so initially I intended to only invite people from my department and my 2 bridesmaids who are in different departments so the lines would be very clear and nobody's feelings would get hurt. But then I realized there were people I socialized with outside of work who I really wanted to invite. So I invited them.
I agree about the dynamics. You don't want to have a small office and invite like 4 out of 5 people, but if there is a disparity between the number of people you work with and the people you socialize with, there's nothing wrong with inviting only those you socialize with.
This! If anyone would like an example of how NOT to handle inviting/not inviting coworkers. Read on. Although not a wedding, I worked at an office a few years ago where one of my coworkers had a huge Superbowl party at her friend's bar, which was closed for the event. Not even hosted, so no extra costs. Just providing a cool location. She invited EVERYONE, including their SOs, except for three people. And that was out of an office with about 15 employees.
Me and a good friend/coworker were 2 of the 3 people who were not invited. It was VERY hurtful to both of us. It had us wondering and second guessing why we weren't invited, when it seemed like we got along with her just fine. We found out, many months later, that she didn't invite us because her BFF (another coworker) didn't want us invited. I guess she was jealous/worried of Superbowl coworker becoming friendlier with us and stealing her thunder. Wow, whatever. You would never guess these were women in their mid 20s, early 30s.
Oh! And of course the party was all anyone at the office was talking about for a few days before that weekend. Then on the Monday after, we got to hear ALL about the awesome, fun party we "missed". With pictures posted on people's office walls and everything. Lovely (sarcasm).