I'm sure there are many posts similar, but none exactly alike, so I just have to ask.....
My bridesmaid, we'll call her, "Mary" is a friend I've had for a few years. Well, almost a year ago she started dating a guy who really turned her upside down and made her into an extremely rude person. Now, when I asked Mary to be in my BP, she was only a few months into the relationship. At that point, I considered her a best friend. Just in the last year, the man she's with has turned her into someone shes not. For example, she accused me for stealing money and lying to her, when I've never done either of those things to her through out our entire relationship. When the bridesmaids get together to help out with the little wedding tasks like assembling invites, she not only refuses to help but she sits far away from the group and says nothing but infrequent snide remarks. I almost never see her anymore because she is always with this man and he wont let her spend time with me except for very rarely. When the bridesmaids got together to find dresses and shoes, she only complained instead of keeping an open mind, even after we found gorgeous dresses and shoes (for $70 TOTAL when we were expecting to spend $150+). When she found out she would have to walk down the aisle with one specific groomsman, she refused and said that her boyfriend would not be okay with that so she won't do it, forcing me to rearrange the entire order. It's gotten to the point where I'm hesitant to invite her places because of (1) how rude her boyfriend is to me and to her when I do & (2) because she has become so mean that it's truly difficult to be around her.
On the other posts, I have read that many women drop bridesmaids and lose them as friends. I don't know if I'm ready to lose her forever, but I really don't think she treats me the way a bridesmaid should. I don't know how to handle this.