Yesterday I went with a friend to meet up with a group of girls she knows from her work. She's one of my bridesmaids and I thought maybe it could be fun - meet new people, whatever. Anyway, once I got there I found out that one of the girls is also getting married this year, so naturally we started on the standard wedding talk. Right away she started talking about how hard the guest list has been - not being able to invite "plus ones," having to skip people altogether, etc. Alright, while we haven't had that problem, I know a lot of brides that have and can sympathize (although - I think it's a bit harsh not to allow guests to bring someone, but I might be in the minority there). She then says, as if it's normal practice, "We're a bit behind actually as we need to get our invites out in April so that we can get our "second-tier" invites out in late June." Her wedding is in August. I asked her what she meant by second-tier invitations and she said, "Well, we have so many people that we want to invite but our venue only fits so many, so we're going to see who RSVP's and then once we start getting 'no's' we can mail out the second round. I mean, people should know whether they're coming to the wedding or not, so why wait and then have a bunch of people that want to go not be able to?" B-LIST. Gross. What makes it worse is she sent out STD's as well....which I realized once I got home doesn't make any sense because how would she decide who to send them to if she's operating off a "tiered" list? I really wish I would have asked her about that! Anyway, thought I'd share....