Good Morning!
My little sister and I both started dating our significant others right around the same time, and both starting talking about marriage around the same time. She got engaged back in September and planned a July wedding. My SI and I were in the midst of moving to another city and decided to hold off on getting engaged to give her 'her moment'.
We are now engaged and are planning our wedding for September 2015. (over a year after my sisters wedding).
Since getting engaged we've had several snarky comments about 'stealing thunder' and that if we weren't planning on getting married until next year, why couldn't we have waited to get engaged until AFTER the sisters wedding as not to take away from her moment. (Which was initially very hard for me as the older by 4 years, sister to have her baby sister get engaged before her and then have to wait 5 months to get engaged even though you've already got the ring picked out and bought)
My FI and i have managed to brush off the comments and not let the get to us, and my sister has been very understanding and supportive of us getting engaged.
However now that we've started planning I am finding that my sister and I have very similar wedding tastes. My FI will come up with a great idea only to find out its almost exactly what my sister is doing.
Initially we thought to 'stick to our guns' and have everything we want since our wedding is a year later, but now even my easy going parents are commenting about how we should take the time we have to maybe come up with new ideas so that our weddings arent 'too similar'
I want to have the wedding of my dreams and do all the decorations and things that my FI and i want, but at the same time since we've already experienced snarky comments about our engagement I can already hear the 'oh did you just borrow this from your sisters wedding' and other similar comments. While i want the wedding I planned, i also want it to be MY wedding. Not remind people of someone elses.
Am I just being silly here thinking that it matters if our weddings have the same theme and decor? Or since I do have the time to come up with other ideas should I get back to the drawing board??