My groom wants to wear a hideous neon yarn beanie cap DURING our wedding ceremony, photos, and reception. We're having a very formal and classic wedding, and as much as I love his bohemian-chic look at home, it simply doesn't have a place next to a tux.
I've tried reasoning with him ("Wear it during the reception, just not the ceremony and pictures!" and "Wear it during SOME pictures but I want some without it too," even.) and he refuses to budge an inch. He thinks the hat represents "who he is," and his deceased grandmother made it for him when he was a child. I have no idea how to get him to part with the horrible thing for our wedding day, and I need help!
The women in the bridal party/family agree with me, the men agree with him. I tried to have his older sister (whom he really loves and respects) to mediate, but he got furious that I was bringing a third party into our "private discussion." I really feel like he is completely not even listening to me and is being unreasonable... Am I off-base here?
I'm all for him representing himself on the wedding day, but it's too expensive of an affair to ruin the delicate and classic atmosphere that we chose together, the photos, and theme with an old, dirty, lint-covered yarn hat. How do I get him to understand reason and compromise?