How do you decide who's hosting?

kitty8403

If you & FI are a well-established couple (years), with your own place, and paying for everything on your own, who is hosting? Is it still polite/an honor to mention parents at that point in the invite wording, or would it be considered strange?

In case it matters: no children involved, first time marriage for both, all parents still living. Bride late 20s, groom early 30s.

AddieCake

You can always use "Together with their families" if you want to make everyone feel included.

tammym1001

FI and I are hosting our own wedding. Our invitations said:

The pleasure of your company is requested

at the marriage of 

Tammy brideslast name

and 

Groom first and last name

at

time date and location of wedding.

CMGragain

You are hosting your own wedding.  This is perfectly proper.

The pleasure of your company is requested
at the marriage of
Bride's Full Name
and
Groom's Full Name
Day, date
time o'clock
Venue
Address
City, State

If you are having a church wedding, you would use, "The honour of your presence is requested".  If your reception is in the same location as your ceremony, you put "Reception to follow" at the bottom of the invitation.  Otherwise, you need a separate reception card.
IT IS NOT AN HONOR TO BE ON A WEDDING INVITATION! (Caps are for newbies reading this for the first time.)  The only people honored are the guests who receive that invitation.

kaegurl85

We're hosting because we're paying for the wedding. We put the same as CM and Tammy did on our invitations. 

kitty8403

CMGragain said:

You are hosting your own wedding.  This is perfectly proper.

The pleasure of your company is requested
at the marriage of
Bride's Full Name
and
Groom's Full Name
Day, date
time o'clock
Venue
Address
City, State

If you are having a church wedding, you would use, "The honour of your presence is requested".  If your reception is in the same location as your ceremony, you put "Reception to follow" at the bottom of the invitation.  Otherwise, you need a separate reception card.
IT IS NOT AN HONOR TO BE ON A WEDDING INVITATION! (Caps are for newbies reading this for the first time.)  The only people honored are the guests who receive that invitation.

Thank you! :-)
Is there another accepted way of phrasing for non-church weddings, though? I'm not quite sure I like the way "pleasure of your company" sounds.

CMGragain

"Pleasure of your company" is a traditional way of asking someone to a party.  It means "we'll be happy if you are here."  There was even a movie by that title about a wedding!  If you use traditional wording, you will be sure that your invitation is proper etiquette, and easily understood by your guests.  I would recommend sticking with that.
Remember, your invitation is a note from the hosts to the guests, stating who, what, when and where - not why.  That is understood.  Save the personal touches for the reception.