So please bare with me. I am new to "the knot" and well, overall new to posting up discussions publicly but I have been under a great ordeal of stress and anxiety and feel like I desperately need an outlet. My fiancé proposed to me back in Feb/March and we are currently planning our wedding for this Dec. 2014. Very short notice, I know but if there's a will, there's a way, right? Plus, my future sis-in-law is an event/wedding planner so there shouldn't be a problem, right? .....My FI is a great man and is very close to his family. I want him to play an active role and be a part of the wedding planning. I feel that ever since we began the process, everyone has had an input on how MY wedding ought to be but myself. From my parents, to his family, to him and now his sister (FSIL). I feel I have been left out of the loop on discussions he and she have been having in regards to the wedding date and venue. I know they have nothing but good intentions but it does frustrate me that my own FI does not consult things with me before making decisions or fill me in on what he and his sister discuss. I feel my FSIL could consult with me as well since I am the bride but it's mainly discussions between my FI and my FSIL. We've had many issues on when in our wedding ought to be and I feel that as soon as my FI's family expresses their concern about how a particular wedding date would be inconvenient for them or if they don't like a certain place and so forth, my FI would immediately respond/make a decision without even discussing or consulting me first. He would immediately respond on both of our behalf and I'm left with this "caught-off-guard" expression/feeling. I have told him this bothers me and have asked him to include me and to let me know what they are talking about or planning. I found out that my FI and his sister have been researching venues, scheduling appointments, etc. yet neither one have filled me in on any of this. I feel like I do not have a voice. I'm sorry if this post seems jumbled and all over the place. I'm just extremely frustrated and don't know what to do.