Dear Prudence,
Our daughter is graduating from high school and we are planning a large celebration. We are inviting many people, not just family but friends from near and far, classmates, and teachers. Our daughter has been active in sports and has had a teammate who’s year younger. The girls have been on travel teams together and we have gotten close to the family. The moms have become good friends. The problem is the daughter. She has been a challenge and more so of late. She’s very loud and frequently inappropriate and abrasive with her words and behavior, to the point of making all around her uncomfortable. While our daughter would love to have the mom come to the party, she’s had it with the daughter and is afraid she will ruin her celebration. Not inviting them at all will certainly be perceived as a slight. What’s a parent to do?