Drunk wedding guests - let's discuss

climbingsingle

cupcait927 said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

cupcait927 said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

I'm a drinker. I think you guys know I love my wine. But I'm not going to drink during the wedding. I want to remember everything! But I will be drinking after. 

I love my wine. Love it so much that I'm getting married at a winery. However, I also plan on not drinking all that much that evening because I can quickly go from being fine to be drunk. I don't want to be hung over the next day or forget any part of my evening. So maybe a glass or 2. We will most certainly have drunk guests though, including FI. I'm really not concerned about any of them ruining my wedding because they all know how to act like adults, even when drinking.

I so wanted to get married at a winery! I couldn't find any around here that could fit our group though. But my centerpieces are wine themed (wine bottles, corks, grapes) and I think I'm going to incorportate more corks into the escort cards.

We searched high and low to find one that would accommodate a small wedding without breaking the bank. I can't wait to see pictures from your wedding! We're doing wine bottles on the tables as well and corks for escort cards. Apples instead of grapes though, to tie in the fact that we're getting married in the fall.

That's awesome. I can't wait to see your pics too!

photokitty

doeydo said: I wouldn't consider my wedding 'ruined' just because some guests got drunk.  Maybe if they did something really stupid I would be kind of pissed off or disappointed.  Examples:



To go with that gif...here's whole video which I would say that guest did ruin the wedding- if a guests sends you to the hospital I'll let you say they RUINED your wedding.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h4Z0KH2WSo4

climbingsingle

Yeah, hot mess in the red dress ruining that wedding for sho. 

mellowmarshmallow

phira said:

mellowmarshmallow said:

It makes me laugh when brides come up with the idea of having just beer, wine, and soda as a way to keep people from getting drunk. We had those choices and people still got drunk.

One of my friends got so drunk that he puked on his wife in the parking lot. This was after he spent the better part of the reception trying to get my mom's ok to pick a fight with my dad. They drove 30 minutes home, cleaned up, then wanted to drive back for the after party.

Incidentally, it was a sober/slightly tipsy guest that spilled her red wine down the side of my gown as we were saying our goodbyes. The dry cleaners got the stain out. So, my bridal gown wasn't ruined and my wedding sure as hell wasn't ruined by any guests' behavior drunk or sober.

Yeah, see, we decided on a limited open bar, not because we want to keep people from getting drunk, but because that's the cheapest way for us to serve as much booze as possible without us going broke!

I agree. We chose it because it was cheaper and we had mostly beer drinkers at our wedding (although I prefer whiskey). I just shake my head when people think that guests won't get as drunk on beer and wine as they would on hard alcohol. A determined person will get shitfaced no matter what alcohol is served.

LadyMillil

mellowmarshmallow said:

phira said:

mellowmarshmallow said:

It makes me laugh when brides come up with the idea of having just beer, wine, and soda as a way to keep people from getting drunk. We had those choices and people still got drunk.

One of my friends got so drunk that he puked on his wife in the parking lot. This was after he spent the better part of the reception trying to get my mom's ok to pick a fight with my dad. They drove 30 minutes home, cleaned up, then wanted to drive back for the after party.

Incidentally, it was a sober/slightly tipsy guest that spilled her red wine down the side of my gown as we were saying our goodbyes. The dry cleaners got the stain out. So, my bridal gown wasn't ruined and my wedding sure as hell wasn't ruined by any guests' behavior drunk or sober.

Yeah, see, we decided on a limited open bar, not because we want to keep people from getting drunk, but because that's the cheapest way for us to serve as much booze as possible without us going broke!

I agree. We chose it because it was cheaper and we had mostly beer drinkers at our wedding (although I prefer whiskey). I just shake my head when people think that guests won't get as drunk on beer and wine as they would on hard alcohol. A determined person will get shitfaced no matter what alcohol is served.

I get drunk on 2 beers or 3 glasses of wine, but I can have 6 mixed drinks and not feel anything. I'm like a lose-lose guest - I prefer liquor so if you host that, that's what I'll drink which will cost more, but if you only do beer or wine, I'll drink less but get drunk faster. The only plus is that I know when to stop and I don't want to be the star of drunk wedding guest stories.

I may have been tipsy at my own wedding. I didn't notice any drunk people, but I do know a lot of alcohol was consumed.

krcb

At the wedding I went to last night, a few guests and I had a bit much to drink. We were all the "good" kind of drunks who attempted to keep the party alive by dancing on the dance floor and being enthusiastic. I don't think any of us looked sloppy. I don't think any of us were that great of dancers, but we made it work and had a blast. We'd even belt out to the horrible songs being played that you really couldn't dance to.

At one point, I felt like I was going to throw up but mostly because it was hot as hades outside, so I had to take a break to cool down. No one was obnoxious or had to be hunted down or any of the likes. I did sign the guestbook, and it wasn't too pretty.

I hope we didn't ruin the wedding!

pinkshorts27

krcb said:

At the wedding I went to last night, a few guests and I had a bit much to drink. We were all the "good" kind of drunks who attempted to keep the party alive by dancing on the dance floor and being enthusiastic. I don't think any of us looked sloppy. I don't think any of us were that great of dancers, but we made it work and had a blast. We'd even belt out to the horrible songs being played that you really couldn't dance to.

At one point, I felt like I was going to throw up but mostly because it was hot as hades outside, so I had to take a break to cool down. No one was obnoxious or had to be hunted down or any of the likes. I did sign the guestbook, and it wasn't too pretty.

I hope we didn't ruin the wedding!

Now that sounds like a fun wedding worth attending!

annetheyank

My sisters finace really nailed the coffin at my wedding. He did illegal drugs in the old mansion we rented. He smoked where they specifically said not to. He bragged about hot chicks coming into the bar he worked at to our guests when my sister wasn't around. He pissed himself in my fathers car and in the bed of the rental house. He came into my husbands and my room three hours after we got home and laid his head in my 'lap' while I was in bed and said how h loved me. My sister didn't come home that night (to get away from him) so she didn't have to deal with him, and when she came back the next afternoon she left him again. There was more but I'll stop there. I don't know if it was drug related or a manic episode, but he went to rehab for 6 months. My sister wouldn't talk to me because she said I didn't care about him. I have never gotten an apology from either of them. He emails me for work advice constantly, never keeping me informed of how things are going or thanking me after I give help or advice. Neither of them know how bad it was, at the wedding or early morning after, because he was too out of it to remember, she wasn't there, and no one want to bring it up. So I'm left suffering. Drunks do more than dance silly at weddings, just saying. That felt good to get out, thanks!

annetheyank

How did it go with the one who was mentally ill?

hellohkb

My friend has already said she's going to get blackout drunk, which makes me a bit nervous for her safety. But the wedding is in a hotel and she's getting a room, so she should be fine.

southernbelle0915

annetheyank said:

My sisters finace really nailed the coffin at my wedding. He did illegal drugs in the old mansion we rented. He smoked where they specifically said not to. He bragged about hot chicks coming into the bar he worked at to our guests when my sister wasn't around. He pissed himself in my fathers car and in the bed of the rental house. He came into my husbands and my room three hours after we got home and laid his head in my 'lap' while I was in bed and said how h loved me. My sister didn't come home that night (to get away from him) so she didn't have to deal with him, and when she came back the next afternoon she left him again. There was more but I'll stop there. I don't know if it was drug related or a manic episode, but he went to rehab for 6 months. My sister wouldn't talk to me because she said I didn't care about him. I have never gotten an apology from either of them. He emails me for work advice constantly, never keeping me informed of how things are going or thanking me after I give help or advice. Neither of them know how bad it was, at the wedding or early morning after, because he was too out of it to remember, she wasn't there, and no one want to bring it up. So I'm left suffering. Drunks do more than dance silly at weddings, just saying. That felt good to get out, thanks!

What the actual....? WHAT?!?!?

annetheyank said:

How did it go with the one who was mentally ill?

And what the actual...? After 5 months, let the thread rest. Let it rest.

larrygaga

If nobody got drunk I would consider my reception a failure.

If someone does something stupid it ain't my fault and I won't feel bad for even a second.

One of my very giant and scary brothers will throw them out of the wedding.

climbingsingle

annetheyank said:

My sisters finace really nailed the coffin at my wedding. He did illegal drugs in the old mansion we rented. He smoked where they specifically said not to. He bragged about hot chicks coming into the bar he worked at to our guests when my sister wasn't around. He pissed himself in my fathers car and in the bed of the rental house. He came into my husbands and my room three hours after we got home and laid his head in my 'lap' while I was in bed and said how h loved me. My sister didn't come home that night (to get away from him) so she didn't have to deal with him, and when she came back the next afternoon she left him again. There was more but I'll stop there. I don't know if it was drug related or a manic episode, but he went to rehab for 6 months. My sister wouldn't talk to me because she said I didn't care about him. I have never gotten an apology from either of them. He emails me for work advice constantly, never keeping me informed of how things are going or thanking me after I give help or advice. Neither of them know how bad it was, at the wedding or early morning after, because he was too out of it to remember, she wasn't there, and no one want to bring it up. So I'm left suffering. Drunks do more than dance silly at weddings, just saying. That felt good to get out, thanks!

Seriously? This thread is from June.

It sucks that he behaved like that. But how exactly are you left suffering? Are you married? Then your wedding was a success. Get over it and move on with your life.

lacqueredlover

I can't imagine anything "ruining" my wedding day unless my fiance didn't show up haha.

I plan on getting a little drunk and dancing my ass off, I hope my friends and family do too!

climbingsingle

lacqueredlover said:

I can't imagine anything "ruining" my wedding day unless my fiance didn't show up haha.

I plan on getting a little drunk and dancing my ass off, I hope my friends and family do too!

I totally got a little drunk at my wedding. And I danced and danced and danced. It was the best time ever. 

abbyj700

There was tons of drunk people at our wedding...including us. It was wonderful! :-) Added bonus -Our friends and family made that per person drinking price very much worth it! :-) 

labro

I know this thread is from June...but boy do I have a story.

Drunk wedding guests didn't ruin my day or my sister's day...but I'm pretty sure one ruined the wedding of another bride at my venue a few weeks before I got married. We were talking about additional varieties of beer we wanted to order with our coordinator and somehow we got on the subject of people needing to be cut off at the bar. That's when the coordinator started in on a story about a wedding hosted at the venue about a month before mine. During the "grand entrance" one of the groomsmen disappeared upstairs and then reappeared back downstairs and entered the hall after the bride groom in nothing but the clothes he was born in. Completely buck ass naked in front of a group  of very very conservative people. Our coordinator said she grabbed him by the arm and dragged him upstairs and told him to get dressed. Then she set another groomsmen on him to sober up (he was incredibly drunk, he had been leaning on another groomsman for support during the ceremony).

A half or so later he turns up in the ballroom again YET AGAIN completely naked. At this point the coordinator goes to the FOB again (she went to him earlier and the FOB said he'd take care of it) and says that she's never kicked anyone out of the venue before or called the cops on someone, but she may have to in this case. He says "no, no, GM does this all the time at our family get togethers" and she's like "well yeah, but I can't have this happen in my venue, there are children here". So the FOB says fine, he'll talk to the GM and the GM agrees to go sleep it off upstairs again.

In the meantime, the coordinator is feeling suspicious about this guy so she goes upstairs to check on him and instead finds him outside the venue, once again completely naked! This time she tells him that if he doesn't get his clothes on and leave, she's going to have to call the cops. I think everything ended with another GM taking him home but my parents and H and I were all in complete disbelief over this story. Yeah, the wedding happened, they got married, and had their reception, but one of the GMs appeared THREE TIMES naked at the reception in front of children and an older and very conservative religious group from the groom's family.

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826

A grandparent got stupid drunk apparently (and cut off at the bar).  I didn't know this until the end of the night.  Turns out Grandma gave Grandpa a stern lecture on the balcony that night.  I honestly didn't know anything about it.  I was too busy dancing and partying to notice, lol

Maggie0829

Lots of people got tipsy, buzzed or drunk at our wedding.  I was definitely on the verge of drunkenness.  H got trashed but had the time of his life.  As long as people had fun and no one threw a punch I was more then fine (and would have considered our reception a fail if this didn't happen) with people getting their drink on.

Kauris

Since we haven't let this go the way of the zombie, the only regret I actually have about our wedding is not getting at least a little drunk, DH has the same regret. It's kind of funny. And I was thrilled at hearing that any of our guests did get drunk. As long as they didn't drive, why should I care!?

amelisha

I'm getting married in Vegas and if one sober person remains by dinnertime I am going to be extremely disappointed in my friends and family.

None of my nearest and dearest are idiots, though, and I trust them to take care of themselves because they always do. I am not controlling enough to want to police other people's states of intoxication. And I bartended my way through university and so I am no longer willing to cut people off unless I'm getting paid for it.