My brother is getting married next weekend and she asked me to be a bridesmaid last year after they got engaged. Before I explain more, I've never been rude or mean to her. She's 22 and I'm 30. I agreed to be a bridesmaid including buying my custom $400 dollar bridesmaid dress. At first, I thought maybe she was just caught up in her wedding or too young to realize she needs to inform all her bridemaids of all the important information, but I was sadly mistaken after a picture I came across on Facebook.
Her Bachelorette party was last Saturday and I saw a picture of her and every single one of her bridesmaid wearing customized matching t-shirts and outfits in a picture right before her Bachelorette party. After seeing this, I realized my good nature of giving her the benefit of the doubt was me being too nice again.
The reason I am so mad is because she never even invited me to the Bachelorette party, never made me a bridemaids shirt and never told me any information about it. I am so offended I spent over an hour crying last night, trying to figure out why I wasn't included. I have never in my life been left out of something in such a cruel, demeaning way. I'm so mad. I want to walk out of the wedding right now, but I would never do this to my brother. I love him too much.
Also, I found out the details of my bridemaid's dress the night of Thanksgiving, after seeing her the same day, from a text from my brother about where to get the dress. She never even had the courtesy to tell the dress delights in person. She also went with all her bridesmaids to purchase their dresses. I was excluded from that as well.
She has yet to tell me how to wear my hair, except I needed to grow my hair out or else (I got hair extensions), about my makeup, my shoes, where to meet the day of the wedding, or anything about the rehearsal dinner. I've been finding all the information out via my mother. Also, she booked a spa day for us, but I work a full time job and have kids.
I feel so demeaned and left out right now. I never treated any of my bridesmaid this way. I made sure they were all in the loop for everything.
I'm so mad right now. How dare she treat me this way! What would you do if you were me?
I would love to say something to her, but I don't want to ruin the wedding.
I've decided to get ready with my husband and kids and just meet at the church. I can't stomach feeling left out again.
What would you do?