Some time ago, I was discussing with a friend of mine about my upcoming marriage. At this point I had not formally asked her.
I said that since I was an older bride, I did not expect my bridal party to go to a bridal shop and pick out dresses. Instead, I told her that I would want my bridesmaides to wear blue, and it either be a one/two piece dress or skirt in jacket.
She went nuts! She right out told me that she was unemployed (at the time) and that she doesn't wear dresses. She also said that if I made the other person the MOH, she would be pissed!
So am I being the bad lady here, making two simple requests? I took in the fact that she was unemployed (but her husband works) and for that matter she could have went to the Salvation Army or a resale shop to find a dress. About 20 years ago, I had to buy an evening dress for a state function for the Daughters of the American Revolution. I found a beautiful peach colored dress with lace jacket for $18 and took it to the dry cleaners for an additional $7.
Mind you, I stood up in this lady's wedding 30 years ago when I was unemployed. Mind you I was able to buy my dress and shoes, pay 1/4th of the shower expenses (as well as going in for a gift), plus a gift for the wedding.
When our mutual friend did not ask me to be in her wedding, my friend could not understand why she decided on her two future SIL's over me, she said that if I could be in the wedding, she she would bow out and just come as a guest.
Thoughts??