Hi! I've been a lurker for months and months, and I feel like this is the best place to get some unbiased truth. Sorry this is a little long.
I'm getting married in October, and my mother has not been involved in the wedding planning at all and they are not paying for any part of the wedding. She hasn't seen my dress or the venue. We don't have a bad relationship (we talk at least twice a week and she likes my fiancé), but she just isn't the type of mom to care about the details of my wedding, and I accept that.
Fast forward to last week - I ordered my invitations from an etsy vendor, and I sent my mom the final proof because I was proud of the design and I thought they were beautiful. She sent me back an email saying that they are pretty. But later, she called me and told me that I was being "disrespectful" because I didn't out right name her and my dad in the invitation. We put "together with their parents", and she said that "anyone can be your parents". Basically, she said I was ungrateful for all the things she's done for me, and that I should be ashamed of myself.
I was dumbfounded. I had no idea that the wording of "together with their parents" is disrespectful, or would make my mom feel like I don't appreciate her. I don't think I can change these invitations. My question is, am I in the wrong? Is not naming my parents not showing them appreciation? Really confused.