We are going back and forth on whether to host an open soft bar (beer, wine, and sangria only) or an open full bar at our wedding reception. We are paying by the drink, not by the head, and honestly, it will probably end up costing about the same, and would be within our budget, either way. (We're beer nerds and so we're offering some fancy beers that aren't really that much cheaper than a mixed drink.)
The reason we originally decided against a full bar is that we have a few (<15) heavy drinking guests that we must invite, and its harder to get embarassingly drunk on beer than it is on martinis. I just have nightmares about someone throwing up on my auntie, falling into the fountain, or inappropriately hitting on a 17 year old. Is this a really terrible reason to eschew liquor for everyone else? Am I turning my wedding reception into a Nanny State?
On the other hand, I'm worried that if we don't serve liquor, we might lose guests to the adjacent bars. Our reception is in an open courtyard, with two bars adjacent. I'd hate for people to leave the reception to do shots or something (that they would obviously be paying for themselves). Or worse, get a mixed drink and then get caught bringing it back into the reception and having a security guard chastise them and take it away (mortifying - for everyone) because our caterer has already warned us that no one can bring outside drinks into the courtyard, for obvious reasons.
My fiance has deferred this decision to me and neither of our immediate families drink much at all and so have no real opinion. I just want to keep my reception from becoming a drunken sh!tshow, but I definitely don't want to be rude. What do you guys think? Anyone struggled with the full bar/soft bar issue for reasons that are unrelated to cost?