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What to do about my stepdad?

I'm not sure where to put my stepdad in my ceremony. My stepdad and I aren't really that close, but there's no bad blood or anything. I am close with my dad, so he will be "giving me away" (hate saying that), but I don't know what role I can give my stepdad. The only reason I'm stressing over this so much is because we're having a fairly large, expensive wedding and my dad and stepdad are splitting the cost 50/50. I feel like my dad will be a little put off if I ask both of them to give me away, but I think my stepdad will be upset if there's no room for him in the ceremony. Has anyone had this problem? What do I do? I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Also, I thought about having my stepdad officiate (that one time ordained thing you can do), but this job has already been given to my future grandfather in law. 

Re: What to do about my stepdad?

  • Have a special dance with your stepdad at your reception.

    As for the ceremony, either your dad and stepdad can each walk you part of the way, or both of them can walk you together.  

    But both your dads need to not be pissed because you want to include both in some way.
  • My step-dad did the blessing prior to lunch being served.

    Note: my father is deceased and I walked down the aisle by myself.
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  • Have your seat dad escort your mom down the aisle, just before the wedding party processes in.

    Since they are splitting and presumably both hosting, you could ask that your stepdad give a toast instead of your dad. Or say the blessing if you were't going to have a toast from a parent.

    He could do a reading during the ceremony.

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  • There is no reason that bother your dad and step dad couldn't walk you down the aisle. If your dad were to be pissy about it, just explain that they both are important to you and how much it would mean to you.

    There are of course other options as well. You could ask your step dad to do a reading or (if your religious) say a prayer during the ceremony. Or if it ends up not being feasible to have your step dad involved in the ceremony, why not write him a heart felt thank you note to let him know how much he means to you. Expressing your love and gratitude for the importance someone has had in your life doesn't have to be a public display in your wedding. Sometimes the most meaningful actions are the simplest.
  • Have your dad walk you down the aisle as planned. When your mom stands up to welcome and thank everyone for coming have your stepdad stand with her. No need for him to speak.
  • Who is escorting your mom down the aisle?  Couldn't your step dad and your mom walk down together?
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