Here's my dilemma...My brother just became ordained online specifically for my wedding. My fiance, myself and my brother are all excited about that. My grandparents, however are extremely upset that I am not having "a real minister/priest/judge" marry us...They said they wouldn't even consider it a legit marriage in their eyes. Soo, to make them happy I compromised and said that I would bring in a 2nd officiant who is more "seasoned" to co-officiate with my brother. After getting several quotes, every officiant in Central NJ seems to be charging between $400-$500. There is no way I am paying that kind of money just to please my grandparents. How should I process from here? Do I just tell them "sorry, I really wanted to accommodate your wishes, but we do not have that kind of money" and hope that they understand? They usually don't question my life choices so since they have so openly expressed how upset they are about this, I know it really is a big deal to them. My brother is upset that they don't want him to officiate. He wants to be the only officiate, as we had originally planned. Not sure what to do...