Hey girls!
So I've been dating my fiancé for 5 1/2 years, we bought a house at the beginning of the year (a fixer upper) and began fixing our house. I am 25 years old in grad school (finish in Nov) and am currently contemplating on moving with my fiancé to Florida next year (for a better life).
My mother & fiancé have always had this little love & hate relation (mostly hate), my mother and I don't also have the greatest relationship either; even though I currently still live at her house and I 'am very respectful towards her wishes even if I do not agree.
So, I 'am currently on vacation visiting my dad in Florida, and a month later my boyfriend (not fiancé yet at this point), and the day after he arrived he proposed I was very happy and so excited. My father, fiancé and I celebrated that day, I was thinking about holding off the news till I got back home at Puerto Rico but you know the excitement got to me and I decided to call her and tell her, I didn't want her to feel bad so I told her it happened that day. The moment I told her she immediately shot me down; "Oh, I' am not happy about this", "I don't have to like your ring, you do", "You are not doing the right thing", etc.
At this point I cannot believe what I am hearing! I am about to finish grad school, only had a serious boyfriend which btw just proposed, I am somewhat independent...like what else do you want from me??? So I stopped her right there (no disrespecting at all) and said excuse me? I do not know where this is coming from, what do you mean? And her answer was about being sexually active before marriage and not doing things right like her. And please let me point out she moved in with my father before they had me and got eloped when I was 4yrs old; also she currently has a partner which she started dating the around the same time I started dating my fiancé.
I seriously do not know how to handle this situation, we have not spoken since this happened and I have no interest in calling her up either (avoiding drama); also I have not posted anything on any social media. Only my close friends and parent know I'm engaged. Ever since the incident happened I feel so sad and kinda guilty (no idea why) about my engagement.
I could really use some words of advice. Thanks girls!