So, my mother's side of the family has an heirloom veil that gets passed around (every woman has worn it at her wedding since my great-great grandmother hand made it at the turn of the century). My grandmother cried when I asked to wear it at my own wedding and it's kind of a big deal. The last cousin to get married theoretically has the veil still. I tried asking her very nicely for it, which never even got a response. After pushing a little more forcefully, she admits to having no idea where it is! I'm not sure what to do about this. I don't want to start family drama, but I also really want to yell at her. I've got plenty of time for it to be located (2016 wedding) but I am trying to get everything figured out to get my FIL off of my back about it. How do I proceed? Do I just give up and not wear a veil? Ugh.