yea

justbeingme93

I honestly don't know what to say. 

justbeingme93

You know how there is the BAT SIGNAL for batman? I feel like there should be a penguin signal. @GoldenPenguin, HELP! Say something. I have no words. 

AuroraRose41

I read through all of this and the ladies here did give you advice in a nice way (as stated before). You got upset that your idea wasn't validated and then insulted them, and you expect nice responses in return? 

Also, this board is different from other internet forums in that we treat our conversations like those that we have in real life. So yes, expect to be insulted if you insult others, expect to be called "rude" for ignoring the advice/comments of others, and expect to be welcomed if you treat others the way that you want to be treated. Golden rule, dude. 

lmcooper86

No time to knot the last few days, but this was my first thought when I saw the discussion this morning

loves2shop4shoes

So you're sorry, but you're going to insult us by saying you didn't like our proposal stories?

Got it.

ETA:  You left, but you're back, but you're really leaving again?  You wouldn't happen to be marrying a former poster whose screen name was Bubbles, would you?

[Deleted User]

Knottie81146333 said:

I decided to come back, but I'm not going to read what you guys wrote since, because I'm sure it wouldn't be so nice lol.

Either way... I wanted to come back just to say something and then I will close out and leave again:

First of all. Thanks. I know initially it didn't feel like you guys were trying to be helpful because of the overwhelming number of comments that said they didn't like it. So please understand that being my shoes, having planned all of that already, having reserved the gardens and drawn out this entire thing and written the sketch for the tour guide already.. to be told over and over again that it wasn't someone's favorite idea... well kind of hurts. Someone suggested that I might have been fishing for compliments. While that is not the case, of course after all that plannng and prep it would have been nice to hear that people liked my idea.

Second, I think you guys have the right idea. We all have our own preferences and we're all different kinds of people. So while I seriously do appreciate your comments on what you would prefer or how you were proposed to and how you thought it was perfect (and I'm not trying to be rude when I say this), I didn't like some of your proposal stories. She wouldn't like if I did it some of those ways and I'm not sure I would either. You guys weren't suggesting that I copy your proposals, I know... I'm just saying. It's not fair to say you think my idea is "hokey" or whatever word you choose to use because quite frankly she may absolutely love it. We all have different preferences. With that being said.. I have thought a lot about what you guys said. Even though the proposal is only a couple of weeks away. I think I might lean toward getting her to the gardens and her going through the gardens by herself. I do still want to have "stations" where she picks up a note from me and I would like to have say decorations. For example: stars that I made hanging from the tree branch and a prop car underneath the stars with a blanket on top of the car (since we would star gaze on the roof of my first car with a blanket). But I think you guys have the right idea with her going through all that alone. I know for a fact she wants friends there.. maybe I'll have them come out at the end to celebrate and maybe someone sneaking far away in the bushes to take pictures (I'll work on that).

To get to my point. Thanks. I guess I wasn't used to a bunch of girls (I assume most of you are, anyway) ganging up on me and my idea. I know you weren't it just felt like it. My girl means the world to me so I want this to be perfect and just how she would love it.

Sorry for saying not so nice things. I shouldn't have. Thanks.

So basically, in the end, he's taking most of our advice.

ETA: BOLD

blabla89

lmcooper86 said:

No time to knot the last few days, but this was my first thought when I saw the discussion this morning

I reacted the same way and sure enough...

eilis1228

I think the issue is that he thought everyone would be like, "OMG! HOW ROMANTIC! You should get a string quartet to play Canon in D, and have them start playing the moment she lays eyes on you. And line the path with rose petals and candles and puppies!" Instead he got realistic responses from real women, not women who wish their lives were rom coms. OP, you don't need to be Ted Mosby here, and that's essentially what everyone has told you. I think your new ideas about letting her go through the gardens by herself are great, and I'm glad you took our advice. However, you also need to be open to constructive criticism. You posted on a public forum asking internet strangers for advice. We gave you advice, and you acted like a diva. If you don't like what you're hearing, simply say, "Thanks, I appreciate the advice. I don't think that applies to my GF and I, but I appreciate the different perspective." No need to whine, exit dramatically, and then reappear. You can't behave that way in your relationships in real life, so please don't do it online. That being said, all of us here really do hope that your proposal goes well, and we're sure your girlfriend will love it no matter what you do. But, just a tip here, having other people hold hands and make out as a reenactment of your relationship is seriously odd. I don't care if they're dating each other, it's just weird.

bethsmiles

eilis1228 said:

I think the issue is that he thought everyone would be like, "OMG! HOW ROMANTIC! You should get a string quartet to play Canon in D, and have them start playing the moment she lays eyes on you. And line the path with rose petals and candles and puppies!" Instead he got realistic responses from real women, not women who wish their lives were rom coms. OP, you don't need to be Ted Mosby here, and that's essentially what everyone has told you. I think your new ideas about letting her go through the gardens by herself are great, and I'm glad you took our advice. However, you also need to be open to constructive criticism. You posted on a public forum asking internet strangers for advice. We gave you advice, and you acted like a diva. If you don't like what you're hearing, simply say, "Thanks, I appreciate the advice. I don't think that applies to my GF and I, but I appreciate the different perspective." No need to whine, exit dramatically, and then reappear. You can't behave that way in your relationships in real life, so please don't do it online. That being said, all of us here really do hope that your proposal goes well, and we're sure your girlfriend will love it no matter what you do. But, just a tip here, having other people hold hands and make out as a reenactment of your relationship is seriously odd. I don't care if they're dating each other, it's just weird.

 I wish I lived in a rom com...women in those movies eat all the food and never gain weight or is that not why we're wishing we were in a rom com?

eilis1228

bethsmiles said:

eilis1228 said:

I think the issue is that he thought everyone would be like, "OMG! HOW ROMANTIC! You should get a string quartet to play Canon in D, and have them start playing the moment she lays eyes on you. And line the path with rose petals and candles and puppies!" Instead he got realistic responses from real women, not women who wish their lives were rom coms. OP, you don't need to be Ted Mosby here, and that's essentially what everyone has told you. I think your new ideas about letting her go through the gardens by herself are great, and I'm glad you took our advice. However, you also need to be open to constructive criticism. You posted on a public forum asking internet strangers for advice. We gave you advice, and you acted like a diva. If you don't like what you're hearing, simply say, "Thanks, I appreciate the advice. I don't think that applies to my GF and I, but I appreciate the different perspective." No need to whine, exit dramatically, and then reappear. You can't behave that way in your relationships in real life, so please don't do it online. That being said, all of us here really do hope that your proposal goes well, and we're sure your girlfriend will love it no matter what you do. But, just a tip here, having other people hold hands and make out as a reenactment of your relationship is seriously odd. I don't care if they're dating each other, it's just weird.

 I wish I lived in a rom com...women in those movies eat all the food and never gain weight or is that not why we're wishing we were in a rom com?

I think you're thinking of Gilmore Girls :-P I totally wish I was in Gilmore Girls. 

justbeingme93

eilis1228 said: I think the issue is that he thought everyone would be like, "OMG! HOW ROMANTIC! You should get a string quartet to play Canon in D, and have them start playing the moment she lays eyes on you. And line the path with rose petals and candles and puppies!" Instead he got realistic responses from real women, not women who wish their lives were rom coms. OP, you don't need to be Ted Mosby here, and that's essentially what everyone has told you. I think your new ideas about letting her go through the gardens by herself are great, and I'm glad you took our advice. However, you also need to be open to constructive criticism. You posted on a public forum asking internet strangers for advice. We gave you advice, and you acted like a diva. If you don't like what you're hearing, simply say, "Thanks, I appreciate the advice. I don't think that applies to my GF and I, but I appreciate the different perspective." No need to whine, exit dramatically, and then reappear. You can't behave that way in your relationships in real life, so please don't do it online. That being said, all of us here really do hope that your proposal goes well, and we're sure your girlfriend will love it no matter what you do. But, just a tip here, having other people hold hands and make out as a reenactment of your relationship is seriously odd. I don't care if they're dating each other, it's just weird.


I laughed out loud...in my office. Damn it, @eilis1228. Then, this gif had to be posted. Also, plot twist...OP met GF yesterday. (Edit: Sorry, TK is being dumb with formatting.)

eilis1228

@justbeingme93 LMAO! That gif is perfect!

bethsmiles

eilis1228 said:

bethsmiles said:

eilis1228 said:

I think the issue is that he thought everyone would be like, "OMG! HOW ROMANTIC! You should get a string quartet to play Canon in D, and have them start playing the moment she lays eyes on you. And line the path with rose petals and candles and puppies!" Instead he got realistic responses from real women, not women who wish their lives were rom coms. OP, you don't need to be Ted Mosby here, and that's essentially what everyone has told you. I think your new ideas about letting her go through the gardens by herself are great, and I'm glad you took our advice. However, you also need to be open to constructive criticism. You posted on a public forum asking internet strangers for advice. We gave you advice, and you acted like a diva. If you don't like what you're hearing, simply say, "Thanks, I appreciate the advice. I don't think that applies to my GF and I, but I appreciate the different perspective." No need to whine, exit dramatically, and then reappear. You can't behave that way in your relationships in real life, so please don't do it online. That being said, all of us here really do hope that your proposal goes well, and we're sure your girlfriend will love it no matter what you do. But, just a tip here, having other people hold hands and make out as a reenactment of your relationship is seriously odd. I don't care if they're dating each other, it's just weird.

 I wish I lived in a rom com...women in those movies eat all the food and never gain weight or is that not why we're wishing we were in a rom com?

I think you're thinking of Gilmore Girls :-P I totally wish I was in Gilmore Girls. 

Oh yes...Gilmore Girls that's what I want to live in! God I loved that show!

lilacck28

I'm glad the OP is dialing things back a bit, and I don't want to beat a dead horse, but I just can't hold this back: When I read the bit about the friends making out my first thought was "oh, a polygamous relationship?" and then "oh wait. OMG. HIDE. " As in, I put my hands over my eyes in an attempt to actually hide.

lilacck28

Fiance agrees with my assessment.

eilis1228

@bethsmiles One of my all-time favorites! Their alleged metabolism is insane lol.

phira

Yeah, sorry a bunch of girls ganged up on you. Don't let the door hit your giant testicles on the way out.

Dignity100

From reading through this:
@ellis1228 - I too wish I lived in Gilmore Girls TV Land

@justbeingme93 - OMG puppies totally would have made my proposal better!!  Then again, I'd probably be too busy playing with the puppies to notice FI proposing. . .

bethsmiles

TwoDimes said:

Knottie81146333 said:

I decided to come back, but I'm not going to read what you guys wrote since, because I'm sure it wouldn't be so nice lol.

Either way... I wanted to come back just to say something and then I will close out and leave again:

First of all. Thanks. I know initially it didn't feel like you guys were trying to be helpful because of the overwhelming number of comments that said they didn't like it. So please understand that being my shoes, having planned all of that already, having reserved the gardens and drawn out this entire thing and written the sketch for the tour guide already.. to be told over and over again that it wasn't someone's favorite idea... well kind of hurts. Someone suggested that I might have been fishing for compliments. While that is not the case, of course after all that plannng and prep it would have been nice to hear that people liked my idea.

Second, I think you guys have the right idea. We all have our own preferences and we're all different kinds of people. So while I seriously do appreciate your comments on what you would prefer or how you were proposed to and how you thought it was perfect (and I'm not trying to be rude when I say this), I didn't like some of your proposal stories. She wouldn't like if I did it some of those ways and I'm not sure I would either. You guys weren't suggesting that I copy your proposals, I know... I'm just saying. It's not fair to say you think my idea is "hokey" or whatever word you choose to use because quite frankly she may absolutely love it. We all have different preferences. With that being said.. I have thought a lot about what you guys said. Even though the proposal is only a couple of weeks away. I think I might lean toward getting her to the gardens and her going through the gardens by herself. I do still want to have "stations" where she picks up a note from me and I would like to have say decorations. For example: stars that I made hanging from the tree branch and a prop car underneath the stars with a blanket on top of the car (since we would star gaze on the roof of my first car with a blanket). But I think you guys have the right idea with her going through all that alone. I know for a fact she wants friends there.. maybe I'll have them come out at the end to celebrate and maybe someone sneaking far away in the bushes to take pictures (I'll work on that).

To get to my point. Thanks. I guess I wasn't used to a bunch of girls (I assume most of you are, anyway) ganging up on me and my idea. I know you weren't it just felt like it. My girl means the world to me so I want this to be perfect and just how she would love it.

Sorry for saying not so nice things. I shouldn't have. Thanks.

Bubbles, is that you?!

Maybe if we say her name three times, she'll appear and complain about her life but do nothing to fix it.

lmcooper86

bethsmiles said:

eilis1228 said:

I think the issue is that he thought everyone would be like, "OMG! HOW ROMANTIC! You should get a string quartet to play Canon in D, and have them start playing the moment she lays eyes on you. And line the path with rose petals and candles and puppies!" Instead he got realistic responses from real women, not women who wish their lives were rom coms. OP, you don't need to be Ted Mosby here, and that's essentially what everyone has told you. I think your new ideas about letting her go through the gardens by herself are great, and I'm glad you took our advice. However, you also need to be open to constructive criticism. You posted on a public forum asking internet strangers for advice. We gave you advice, and you acted like a diva. If you don't like what you're hearing, simply say, "Thanks, I appreciate the advice. I don't think that applies to my GF and I, but I appreciate the different perspective." No need to whine, exit dramatically, and then reappear. You can't behave that way in your relationships in real life, so please don't do it online. That being said, all of us here really do hope that your proposal goes well, and we're sure your girlfriend will love it no matter what you do. But, just a tip here, having other people hold hands and make out as a reenactment of your relationship is seriously odd. I don't care if they're dating each other, it's just weird.

 I wish I lived in a rom com...women in those movies eat all the food and never gain weight or is that not why we're wishing we were in a rom com?

Not to mention the magically replenishing wardrobe where you never have to wear the same outfit twice...

bride2b71614

I missed all the cray cray drama! Well, for what its worth, I hope that she'll say yes to whatever you have planned.

That being said, I personally dislike public, grand scheme proposals. If I were given a public proposal, I would feel forced to say "yes".

This board doesn't validate all ideas, nor do they blow smoke up people's asses. Unfortunately, as many posters before me have mentioned, when you post, you may not always get the answer you wanted to hear/read. I am sorry that you didn't like the answers we gave you, but you also have to accept different perspectives. 

Again, best of luck to you.  

GoldenPenguin

justbeingme93 said:

You know how there is the BAT SIGNAL for batman? I feel like there should be a penguin signal. @GoldenPenguin, HELP! Say something. I have no words. 

THIS IS THE MOST AMAZING THING I HAVE EVER SEEN IN MY ENTIRE LIFE. 

justbeingme93

GoldenPenguin said:

justbeingme93 said:

You know how there is the BAT SIGNAL for batman? I feel like there should be a penguin signal. @GoldenPenguin, HELP! Say something. I have no words. 

THIS IS THE MOST AMAZING THING I HAVE EVER SEEN IN MY ENTIRE LIFE. 

Haha. Thank you. During the later part of this thread, I was waiting for you to swoop in with wise words and witty comebacks. You didn't end up posting, so one thing led to another in my crazy mind and bam! Penguin Signal. 

GoldenPenguin

Unfortunately I blew my "wise word" load earlier in the thread, and Mr. Cheesy Prom Proposal didn't bother to listen, so I had no more witty comments. 

It was probably because he didn't like my proposal. He probably hates my stupid, ugly ring, too. 

justbeingme93

@GoldenPenguin,

Every proposal is perfect, and your ring is to die for. The first time I saw it I was like...

Ollie08

Aww this is the first time in my history here that I've seen a boy GBCK. I mean, you are a boy right? Your temper tantrums definitely don't make you a man. And for the record, this is an amazing group of women here. Not girls, women.