FFIL has had little to say, but here's a few things he has said that have pissed me off:
-FFIL told FH that he was concerned our wedding was going to be trashy and that his family was traveling and we were obligated to give them a nice event (FYI, I have family flying in from much further away)
-He requested that we upgrade to his liquor preference (we originally ordered the mid tier, so we just asked the caterer to upgrade that one liquor)
-While looking at rehearsal dinner venues he kept saying it was important that I get what I want, but then either blatantly ignored or vetoed all of my suggestions. Which the rehearsal dinner is his party, he can do what he wants, but he then shouldn't pretend it's for me and his son.
-He told us that the he was concerned the rehearsal dinner was going to "overshadow" our wedding. Umm the rehearsal dinner is BBQ at a local bar/restaurant, nothing fancy. And nobody is getting married at that!
-"Oh we didn't realize not having a cake was a choice" aka it was assumed that us and/or my family was too poor to get a cake. Nope, we just want to do a homemade dessert table. So they decided they wanted to contribute by bringing some super fancy cupcakes from a very prestigious bakery close to where they live, which is about 600 miles from the wedding venue. So yay fancy cupcakes, but not exactly homemade.
-Told us that he would spend up to 5k on the rehearsal dinner and anything left over would be our gift. He has decided to spend every dollar on the rehearsal dinner. His choice, but I wish he didn't tell us the first part, especially since we didn't pick the over priced venue.
Just to add extra salt to the wounds, both FH and I and my parents are contributing significantly more to the wedding weekend than my FFIL (even though he makes more money) and the main reason we are having a typical wedding is for him and his family.
Okay rant over. Just a little annoyed right now.