My partner and I had a beautiful and intimate commitment ceremony 5 years ago in Houston, TX. We have been living in Brooklyn, NY for the last 2 years and would like to get legally married next-year. This feels like a huge step in our commitment to one another as we begin to plan for children and the laws around same-sex marriage are changing rapidly nationwide, and we would love to celebrate this with our closest friends and family. I have read a lot about the no-no of a "do over wedding" when you are already legally married, but I am wondering what the etiquette is for a same-sex couple getting legally married for the first time. I should also share that I very much consider my partner my wife, and this is how we refer to each other when talking with family and friends. Ideally, I would like to wear more of a wedding-style dress this time but don't want to look cray-cray either. Also, I want to make sure that we are sensitive to friends and family who participated (and covered some of the cost) for our first ceremony. Our vision is to rent a large home on the beach for a get-away weekend for our nearest and dearest that includes a ceremony and reception style party. We will not be registering for gifts or anything like that, but can I wear wedding dress...can we have another wedding cake...can my brother (who wasn't able to come to our first ceremony) walk me down the aisle (not give me away)? I'd love to know your thoughts on what is appropriate here. Thank you so much!