My fiance and I are getting married in a year and from day one I have been utterly stressed about my mother causing a scene at my wedding.
My parents divorced when I was five and they can't stand each other. My relationship with my parents are totally opposite, I have great love and admiration for my father, and I wish I could say the same for my mother. 12 years ago my father remarried, and my mom and step-mom do not get along either. I get along well with my step-mom and would like to have her feel included in our big day since she has been a important part of my fathers and my life.
Long story short I'm terrified that my own mother is going to cause a scene. I know my father and his wife will be respectful during the wedding , but my mom has been known to not care about who hears her or her snarky and inappropriate remarks. Throw in some cocktails and all bets are off. I tried talking to my mother, but she claims shes not the problem ( I beg to differ).
I also told her that she would not be allowed a guest ( she isn't in a serious relationship with anyone) , and she said "try to stop me." We have a very tight guest list and we simply don't have room for added guests. My mother is not contributing to the cost of the wedding, however my father and his wife are...This could be an uphill battle for me..
I'm trying to find the balance of dealing with my three parent figures, how do I include them all? Any suggestions on how to manage this situation would be helpful, particularly in introductions and seating arrangements would be nice. I know including my step-mom will hurt my mother, but not including her would hurt my step-mom and father ... I'm at a loss!
Thanks in advance for any advice with for dealing with a dramatic momofthebride!