I found out via my mom that my aunt (let's call her Aunt L) wants to throw me a bridal shower. Yay! I was really surprised and flattered. My mom gave her the go-ahead, but then she started trying to get my approval on everything. She started by asking me which month would work (the wedding is May 2015 so we have plenty of time) which seemed totally logical. Of course she would clear the date with me, because I have a demanding job and obviously she wants the bride to be able to attend the bridal shower, so I thought nothing of it.
But THEN she asked me to pick details. She wanted to know what "theme" I wanted, what colors, what type of food, etc etc. I felt like I was planning the party myself, and I don't want to steal that away from her at all. I kept saying "Aunt L, I appreciate this so much! It makes me feel so special that you want to plan something for me! Anything you plan is going to be awesome, so don't worry about it. I'm just excited to see you!" I've gone through this with her multiple times, and it's the truth. She lives on the other side of the country, so really my bridal shower could be she and I just eating a pizza and it would be so awesome to me.
I think she keeps asking me to choose everything because she's worried about disappointing me, no matter how much I try to convey that nothing will disappoint me. I'm really not hard to please, I have no expectations, I'm just so excited to see her!
But she asks me to make decisions for the party so much that I feel like if I do make decisions, then I'm stealing the planning from her and way over-stepping my bounds (I'm not the host!) and if I DON'T answer her questions then I'm somehow abandoning her to be stressed and dealing with this on her own. Ugh! I feel so bad at this point.
Has anyone else dealt with this? I don't know what else I can say to her. I don't want to plan my own party. I don't want her to stress. I just want to do the right thing and make her know that I love ANYTHING she plans.