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Wedding Guest Pay for Their Own Dinner?

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Re: Wedding Guest Pay for Their Own Dinner?

  • So how do I word on the invitation saying that they have the option for coming to dinner with us.  If a person does not want to eat where we are, I'm not going to force them to eat with us.  I want to at least give them them option to go where we choose. 
    If I remember right, you and the groom are hosting (not your parents). If that's incorrect check out Crane's for wording to include other hosts.

    "Ms. BrideFirst BrideMiddle BrideLast
    and
    Mr. GroomFirst GroomMiddle GroomLast
    request the pleasure of your company
    at their marriage
    Saturday, the sixth of September
    two thousand fourteen
    at half after four o'clock

    Big Cedar Lodge
    Name of balcony/ceremony area
    Suchandsuch, Minnesota

    Reception to follow"

    Then on the information card, you'll write something like:

    "Please join us for light refreshments (or whatever you're doing) in/at (wherever you're doing it) immediately following the ceremony."

    Then you'll add stuff like hotel blocks, directions, etc.

    If I remember right (I can't bring myself to go back and read the whole thread), you decided to do a non-meal time cake/punch reception immediately following your ceremony. Then you were going to just let people know you planned to go to dinner at suchandsuch restaurant later in the evening if they wanted to join. Correct? If so, leave the info card as stated above and then just spread the dinner thing by word of mouth. If you write it down formally anywhere, people are going to think you're hosting it. 
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  • I wouldn't even send the RSVP back to this wedding I might not answer the phone call depending on how much wine I've had when the phone rings. Elope for real not a "we are eloping but want you to come, give us presents, and fund the party" wedding. This is just trashy!
  • AddieCakeAddieCake Beyond the Wall member
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    I wouldn't even send the RSVP back to this wedding I might not answer the phone call depending on how much wine I've had when the phone rings. Elope for real not a "we are eloping but want you to come, give us presents, and fund the party" wedding. This is just trashy!

    Did you miss the part where the OP has already stated she will in fact host dinner now? There is no need to harp on a poster after she has corrected her faux pas.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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    MairePoppyMaggie0829KBrodbeck8
  • LondonLisaLondonLisa London, UK member
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    AddieCake said:
    I wouldn't even send the RSVP back to this wedding I might not answer the phone call depending on how much wine I've had when the phone rings. Elope for real not a "we are eloping but want you to come, give us presents, and fund the party" wedding. This is just trashy!

    Did you miss the part where the OP has already stated she will in fact host dinner now? There is no need to harp on a poster after she has corrected her faux pas.
    I get this, but I am also confused, as OP has now stated: "So how do I word on the invitation saying that they have the option for coming to dinner with us.  If a person does not want to eat where we are, I'm not going to force them to eat with us.  I want to at least give them them option to go where we choose. "

    KBrodbeck8 can you please clarify: Are you hosting a dinner? Or are you hosting refreshments then planning on a pay your own way dinner? What is your timeline?


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