Long story short, I have an older sister whom I don't speak to (her choice, not mine). We used to be incredibly close, but she had a falling out with my mom and dad and stopped speaking to them. I tried to patch things up between them and my sister accused me of choosing sides and hasn't spoken to me since. This was over 2 years ago. I've tried send a few texts over the two years but have never gotten a response from her.
My original plan (if I decide when the time comes that I still want to invite her) has always been to send her and her family an invitation, but now I'm wondering if I should call her ahead of time and let her know about the wedding, because if by some miracle she actually does want to attend I don't want her to already have plans. I know if I call I'm going to have to leave a voicemail because she isn't going to take my call. Not sure why this is even relevant, but I guess this is my way of saying her excitement over my upcoming nuptials isn't going to fix my family.
I just don't want me not inviting her to be the reason she misses her little sister's wedding. Part of me says its her fault and she removed herself from our family a long time ago, and my parents have even said when they get older and/or get sick, they don't want her to know anything about it because they don't want to see her. But she's my sister and I'll always love her, so I don't want that to be the case between us. Another reason why I'd kind of like to call now is because even though we don't speak, I love her dearly and I get really upset whenever there's new drama about her, which is why I've requested my parents to not even let me know about it now. But that being said, I'd rather call now and get shot down 8 months out then send her an invitation a month before the wedding and get upset then when/if she vocally refuses to come.
What do y'all think? Send an invite? Call before hand and give her a heads up? Don't invite her at all?