Tell me if I'm wrong here. I'm having a small wedding next year. Right now my invite list is over my limit. My mom is now insisting that I have to invite my sister's fiance's parents whom I only met once in passing 2 years ago due to "social/political/familial" obligations. I've never otherwise spoken a word to them or seen them in person.
I basically flat out refused, because they are not in any way related to me (nor will be) and I have never met them or spoken to them, plus my current guest count. Therefore her 'familial' argument does not apply to me. I also spoke with my sister about this before, and she told me that it was unnecessary to invite them, and that her fiance stated that his parents would not be offended or expect an invite either. So there goes my mother's "political/social" argument too.
My mom said that she would ask my sister to invite my fiance's parents to her wedding, to be "fair" which I think is just a cop out because my sister is having an overseas wedding that my fiance's parents wouldn't be able to attend (therefore, easy for my sister to invite people who are guaranteed no shows anyway). It's more of an afterthought--as a token of "fairness" but she really doesn't give a sh*t about them (she only met them once, last week). She just wants to be 'fair' to them so that I will invite the other set of parents because she thinks they'll get upset if not invited.
She also used an earlier comment I made about my fiance's mom inviting my fiance's cousin and her husband (whom I have never met) against me, by saying that it wasn't fair that she is contributing $ to my wedding (my fiance's mom is not) and yet my fiance's mom gets to invite my fiance/s cousin and her husband, so how come she can't invite her future in laws? I thought that was completely crass--basically implying that since she's contributing money, she gets to 'rank' the guests and that these people who are wholly unrelated to me, whom I have never met and whom I don't intend to form a relationship have priority over my fiance's blood relatives.
I've already invited all of her friends, plus let her invite a few of her friends whom I have never met, in consideration for her contribution to my wedding.
So should I invite the in laws?