Sound-Off: Sexy or Modest?

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Hey Knotties!

Did you decide to wear a sexy wedding dress or opted for a more modest look? Did you wear two dresses and had one of each?

Let us know!

doeydo

One dress and I guess it is on the more modest side, but I'd like to think of it as a happy medium between the two.

KellyT22

I think my dress is on the modest side, but it makes me feel sexy and beautiful!

southernbelle0915

I wore one dress and it was modest, I guess - cap sleeves, no ultra-plunging neckline, not a super low back, no lingerie styling. But I tend to think modesty is sexy and super revealing/suggestive dresses are slutty, not sexy.

atlastmrsg

Two dresses...both had flirty details but were not at either end of the spectrum.  Had a strapless mermaid gown and a short halter dress.

But then again, compared to some of the dresses on Say Yes to the Dress--like the Pninas with sheer bodices and really low necklines, mine looks more modest by the moment!

holyguacamole79

modest.

Ndelible

Two that are form fitting but not too sexy!

chibiyui

Blah. I hate the whole "Modest or Sexy" thing. I wear what I want, is appropriate for the occasion, and that I feel comfortable in. I could fucking care less whether or not it fits another person arbitrary criteria for what is modest or sexy. 

Inevitably someone thinks I'm a whore because my dress showed cleavage, and someone thinks I'm a prude because it didn't show enough cleavage. Fuck that noise.

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The dress I chose is form-fitting but not especially "sexy," in my opinion. It was really important to me to have my shoulders covered for the church ceremony, so I bought a bolero to wear over it because it's strapless.

AddieCake

I agree with Chibiyui. I guess my dress would fall in the modest category, but I did show cleavage and it was somewhat form fitting, which would be immodest or sexy to some.

PrincessOfHavoc

My gown is both, in the clothing styles that BBC Sherlock has Irene Adler wear type modest and sexy.

My gown is fit and flare - I rock my fantabulous hourglass shape of 44-31-45.5 in that style. Being so boob heavy, anything that's not fitted at least past my butt was scary porno boobs because I lost my hips that balance my boobs.

The bodice will be higher for me as I have a short torso so straps are always too long. So less boobs and no risk of bra band showing in back. But I will still have a mid-low back and cleavage.

My church finds my dress to be modest. DF finds it sexy.

But I hate this type debate. Because it's modest = fully covered, sexy is anything else. Which is a nasty, pervasive misogynistic view. Modest is not wearing a badly fitted dress that covers everything. That attracts huge amounts of attention which is frequently the point as it means they can push whatever on you. That's the antithesis of modesty. A well fitted dress that is flattering but hints at boobs is modest. You look amazing, not a bloody train wreck, so you attract less attention.

missdelilah

I agree that this is an arbitrary distinction.  A modest dress is going to look absolutely sexy on certain women, and a sexy dress isn't going to look remotely appealing on certain women.

That said, I'm going with two dresses (side-eye me if you want, but even two dresses came in so far below my budget - one was a sample - and my family is hosting, so I don't really have anything to do with that aside from choosing the venue) and sorry for the little bracketed rant.

The ceremony/photograph dress is full length, has a low-ish v-neck and a low back.  It's a very tight fit mermaid, and quite restricting.  For the reception, I have something along the lines of a tea length ball gown (although it still seems odd to think of ball gown in the same sentence as anything not full length).  It's strapless, and straight across the top.  

Ultimately, I guess the answer is, a bit of each, but I can guarantee you that some of my guests will find the second dress sexier than the first.

amelisha

I'm only wearing a wedding dress for my mother's sake, so I went pretty modest. It does have a bit of a cleavage, but it's not strapless and it's got tulle and it's quite a-line, so none of my body is really showing clearly apart from a little chest.

Maggie0829

I have no idea if my dress was sexy or modest, but it sure was awesome and made me feel freaking gorgeous.  I believe that is more important then whether or not you think it is sexy or modest.  If you feel beautiful then what does it matter?

mrscomposer

Modest is sexy.  Sexy is sexy.  Sexy is modest.  If you think you're one or the other or both, who's to tell you any different?

My dress is uber-sexy.  And it's modest.  I'm having my seamstress add more material to the top of the bodice so that I don't have cleavage, because I don't like cleavage on me - I think that low backs are much more sexy than low fronts.

ejpentecost

I don't think showing a lot of skin is sexy. To me, that is just flashy. My dress is modest, which to me is very sexy.

jynxiie

I'd say modest since its a ballgown... But the dress gives me huge breasts, so I'd have to say it's right in between. 

VulgarGirl

Well it's knee length and red. So to the Duggers, trashy whore. But it's also a-line and my tits are covered, so to the Kardashians, modest prude.

I think it's just a nice looking dress that looks good on me. Now, how about the grooms? Did they go sexy or modest y'all? Hm? We don't judge men on those criteria? Well I'll be damned.