Writing Our Own Vows

tabathafaye

So 33 days to go and mr fiance has decided we should write our own vows. Wish me luck! LOL

southernbelle0915

Good luck! We did this. Just take time to reflect on your love and what you want for the future. 

artbyallie

Have fun! And remember, you're making promises, not writing a love letter. (Not that you can't also write a letter to send to him while you're all getting ready!)

tabathafaye

artbyallie said:

Have fun! And remember, you're making promises, not writing a love letter. (Not that you can't also write a letter to send to him while you're all getting ready!)

That is what I told him. Vows are the promises we are making.

Jen4948

tabathafaye said:

artbyallie said:

Have fun! And remember, you're making promises, not writing a love letter. (Not that you can't also write a letter to send to him while you're all getting ready!)

That is what I told him. Vows are the promises we are making.

Good.  Also, rein in any urge to be "cute" or "funny" with your vows.  In particular, don't have inside jokes.  You are inviting your guests to witness your vows, so make them understandable and take them seriously.

khristiana

I posted somewhere on the knot that I wanted to also write our own vows and WOW was I blasted... They said the preacher says our vows and anything I want to say to him should be said privately to just him, alone.

This just makes me want to do it even more now!....

slothiegal

khristiana said:

I posted somewhere on the knot that I wanted to also write our own vows and WOW was I blasted... They said the preacher says our vows and anything I want to say to him should be said privately to just him, alone.

This just makes me want to do it even more now!....

There's a difference between "vows" and love letters to each other.

Do whatever you want.  We won't be there having to listen to it.

tabathafaye

Vows are the promises you make to each other. It's not the time to tell your love story. Promises promises!

destinationtake2

Sure, there's a difference between vows and love letters but it's fine to share special words with each other during the ceremony provided that you are still saying vows/making promises that may be part of a script or repeated after the officiant.

In reality, when one actually attends a wedding, presumably they care about the couple getting married and a few words added to the ceremony to make it more personal for them shouldn't bother anyone.

I have seen this done numerous times and never thought, "I can't believe they professed their love for one another in front of their family and friends! The nerve of them for not doing that privately."

destinationtake2

Forgive me, I responded to another topic that came up but doesn't really seem to be your issue @tabathafaye- Good luck!!

tabathafaye

I will probably have a few sentiments. I think it would be weird to not have that. But no more that a sentence or two. Not a book, no poem.

artbyallie

khristiana said: I posted somewhere on the knot that I wanted to also write our own vows and WOW was I blasted... They said the preacher says our vows and anything I want to say to him should be said privately to just him, alone.
This just makes me want to do it even more now!....
ETA: Box fail What you were talking about writing were not vows.

tabathafaye

So I thought I was going to work on them tonight, I didn't even start before I teared up! My emotions are so sensitive lately, everything makes me happy cry.