I have been struggling for a while about so many issues with this. My fiance's parents have been divorced since he was 15 (almost 10 years ago). They both have significant others now for about 7 years each. While he was already grown when they came into the picture, they still play a role in our lives. However, now that we are planning a wedding, everything is turning into a fiasco.
My fiance is so worried about hurting feelings, that he continues to want to do everything by ourselves and it's not easy. His parents don't really fight anymore and they don't really talk but they will at least be in the same room now (they just act like neither exists). We are coming up on some big things that really require both parents there. For example, our venue invited us with 4 guests to a tasting and I would like my parents there. I know he wants both his parents there too but he feels guilty about asking them without their partners, but my opinion is that there are going to be times where it needs to be just his parents. It would be worse to pick one couple or the other! Am I wrong for feeling this way? Both parents were involved in his life and it was truly equal but he is so afraid of hurting ones feelings that I just want to have the conversation myself with his parents but I know it's not my place. ADVICE??