Ok, now that I dealt with the topic of the BM with the baby who went MIA on being a friend for a year, I have a new topic I just need to rant about to get off my chest!
So, my fiance and I are trying to have a deliberately smaller wedding. Part of it is that we just want it more intimate, and part of it is the very tight budget we are on. So we can't afford to have the big kind of hoopla wedding that I think my large family expects. We are getting married in a location that is local to us, but out of town for the rest of family because it's much more affordable than the state our family lives in. My side of the family KNEW that I wasn't going to be inviting 2nd, 3rd, etc. cousins, but lo and behold, the guest list crept up and up.
Now I get a phone call from my grandma the other day, basically freaking out and screaming at me for not inviting "HER family" (meaning her sister's daughter's children---how are they even related to me-- 2nd, 3rd, 4th cousins? Whatever.). She even hung up the phone on me! It was a total temper tantrum. I tried to nicely explain to her that my fiance only got to invite his 1st cousins and that's it, and I'm already inviting so many of "HER" family members--that are really just distant relatives to me-- that it's not fair to him or his family (or to our budget!). She actually stated to me (TWICE) that she "doesn't care about his family" ...um, are you kidding me?!! Isn't that the whole point of getting married and having a wedding? She said the reason we have to invite these kids is that one is 16 yrs old and one is 20 yrs old and they "can't be left home alone." I'm sorry but what 16 and 20 year old can't be left home alone?! Something is really weird about that, and sounds like a big weird excuse to me.
Also, I should mention that none of these people are hosting or paying for our wedding, so I don't see where they come off telling US who we need to invite. Especially because it already seems so one-sided to try to please my family, and I am trying to make sure my fiance and his family are happy, too. So in the end, whatever, we sucked it up and invited all of them, and then yesterday I get this email from my grandma's sister's daughter, thanking me for inviting her children. And again echoing that the reason they wanted to invite the children is that they can't be left home alone (weird), but then, concluding the email by telling me the 20 year old probably can't come to the wedding and that the 16 year old can!! So, WTF, WHY CAN'T the 20 year old just watch the 16 year old if they are staying home?? The whole thing just sounds like a load of cr@P to me. I hate BS excuses and lies, and this whole thing just seemed like a BS excuse and lie to me. Just had to vent.