I'm seriously considering calling off my wedding.
My fiance and I have been engaged since March 2014. He initially wanted a December 2015 wedding but I was able to talk him down to October 2015. We booked a venue, have a DJ, know our general plan, etc. However, from the beginning I never really wanted a big wedding. He was really adamant though so I thought I could do it for him. Maybe planning would get me more excited?
Here we are just under a year out and I'm miserable. I really don't want to wait that long to be married and I really don't want the big wedding we're planning. I don't even like some of the guests and some don't know one of us.
In order to help keep me sane for the next year I've proposed that we have a small civil ceremony (just us) and get legally married this year then have our big wedding next year and portray it as a celebration of our marriage. He refused. We've talked and talked about it (I've cried) and he finally agreed to consider it, but only for next spring and only if our family can be there. My family is across the country and would probably not be able to afford coming out twice next year and the main point of it was so I don't have to wait any longer to be married. But I agreed to talk to my family about it. See? Compromise!
He's said that the main reason he doesn't want a civil ceremony first is because he really wants that moment where I'm walking down the aisle as his bride. He thinks having me walk down the aisle if we're legally married will ruin the whole thing. He also thinks we need everyone we've ever met there to 'celebrate.' I think he just wants to show off. Why invite people one of us doesn't know or like if we're supposed to be celebrating with our nearest and dearest?
In my opinion, having a small civil ceremony this year with just us and a big wedding next year with everyone is a great compromise. I'm miserable. He's only considering what he wants. He said that the fact he's even considering a civil ceremony is a huge compromise. How is it a compromise if it's only on his terms?
I told him if we can't compromise we shouldn't get married at all. I don't know what to do!