Hi all,
So my fiancé already have an officiant for our wedding; it's
his uncle. We really want him to officiate our wedding in May, but he
was recently diagnosed with congestive heart failure and he is on his
death bed. It would be very sentimental for my fiancé's uncle to do our
wedding because he has done his mother's wedding and all of his sibling's
weddings. However, we would need to go travel to visit him ASAP. Probably within the next few weeks... so it's really unexpected but also kind of exciting that we would be married! So my
fiancé and his mom ran the idea to me that we go visit and get
officially married and still have the official wedding as we have planned. I'm
not opposed to this idea at all and neither is he, but my fiancé and I admittedly are on
the fence about it and I was in tears when he told me the news. We're
both just not sure what to do and decided we will pray on it and talk
more about it later. I know that concerns of both of ours after talking
to him would be the fact that we would be legally married and yet not
live together for 7 more months until the wedding, and I feel like that
is going to be hard on us even though that's selfish to say. But at the same time, we want his uncle to
marry us. Even if he does/doesn't pass before our wedding, like I said, we'll be
having the planned wedding on the planned day and have another pastor
who would be willing to officiate the ceremony on the planned wedding day... it's just a really
heartbreaking situation.
So long story short I'm really just
looking for insight on how anyone else might approach this situation.
Would you legally get married and yet not be able to "officially be" together for so long? Or even better, did any of you get married beforehand (say, military situation?) and how did it affect you and your spouse?