Hi everyone,
I'm really hoping you guys can help me with my dilemma. My mom is constantly commenting on my wedding budget and what she thinks are crazy expenses for my wedding. Long story short, she's pretty cheap and while I'm not a spendthrift, I feel like I should have the wedding I want if it's within my means.
She keeps comparing her recent wedding to mine--$200 David's Bridal dress, fake flowers, ipod music, lunch reception, no alcohol, cake baked by a friend, $200 amateur photography, and one really bad quality speaker and microphone where you couldn't even hear the ceremony or speeches. I'm not judging her choices since that's what she was willing to spend. It's her third marriage, after all. I'm marrying my best friend and soulmate who I've been with for 12 years--it'll be our first and only marriage, so it's worth it to me to have a nice wedding.
My expenses so far (debt fee): $975 on a custom dress including alterations, $275 wedding cake from a delicious local bakery, $6000 on ceremony and reception at an all inclusive venue (catering, invitations, open bar, hors d'oeuvres, custom flowers, uplighting and the whole nine yards included!). She keeps insisting I try to get a better deal by asking to omit elements of my package that I want to keep, saying I don't need them. She wants my uncle to make my cake. She says I shouldn't send out save the dates because "stamps are expensive now", and that I should print my own invites. She keeps guilt tripping me and I'm tired of feeling like I'm a diva just for having the wedding that my fiancé and I are paying for completely on our own.
I guess I just want the validation that I can feel okay--even happy--about the wedding I'm having, instead of regretting every single choice I'm making. Instead my frustration with her constant two cents is overshadowing my excitement, and I'm starting to question what I want. Is this a crazy lavish wedding to you guys? If not, how can I get her off my back and end her interference without hurting her feelings? Thanks for your help in advance!