MOG did not chip in for photos, but they want the disk ...

beethery

themosthappy91 said:

I so wish the OP would come back to just confirm she is going to do the right thing and grow up about this... I mean, I get that she may be embarrassed at being called out for acting so selfishly, but a simple admission of pettiness would go a long way to redeem her in my book.  I hate thinking this person is sitting out there reading all of this and still not getting what is so wrong with her attitude.  

Naw, she won't be back. She's mad and is acting like Gollum with the disc.

pinkcow13

Well, she just called a bunch of girls a "rude and  judgemental bunch" or something like that in her tux post from over the summer like 10 minutes ago, so maybe she will come back.

esstee33

@themosthappy91 She's too busy going back and commenting on her old thread about suits looking cheap and uncoordinated or some other horseshit.

beethery

Well now that I know about that, I can not wait for her return. @Pennsyl did you decide to handle this situation like an adult?

theartistformerlyknownas

Well her profile says she was active this afternoon...

Pennsyl

Why hello there!

Nothing like a good, estrogenic feeding frenzy to make you feel nice and superior about yourselves, is there?

You all need to catch your breath and wipe the froth off your mouths (because it is reeeaaaallly unattractive). And then take a hard, long look in the mirror.

To the handful of people who gave me the benefit of the doubt, thank you. You are correct in assuming that there were and are additional, extenuating circumstances - circumstances  that I have no intention of sharing now. I mean - what's the point? This is no place for intelligent, insightful discussion. Not at all. (What *was* I thinking?)

AprilH81

Pennsyl said:

Why hello there!

Nothing like a good, estrogenic feeding frenzy to make you feel nice and superior about yourselves, is there?

You all need to catch your breath and wipe the froth off your mouths (because it is reeeaaaallly unattractive). And then take a hard, long look in the mirror.

To the handful of people who gave me the benefit of the doubt, thank you. You are correct in assuming that there were and are additional, extenuating circumstances - circumstances  that I have no intention of sharing now. I mean - what's the point? This is no place for intelligent, insightful discussion. Not at all. (What *was* I thinking?)

Extenuating circumstances over pictures?!?  I can't imagine what those would possibly be...

OliveOilsMom

Pennsyl said:

Why hello there!

Nothing like a good, estrogenic feeding frenzy to make you feel nice and superior about yourselves, is there?

You all need to catch your breath and wipe the froth off your mouths (because it is reeeaaaallly unattractive). And then take a hard, long look in the mirror.

To the handful of people who gave me the benefit of the doubt, thank you. You are correct in assuming that there were and are additional, extenuating circumstances - circumstances  that I have no intention of sharing now. I mean - what's the point? This is no place for intelligent, insightful discussion. Not at all. (What *was* I thinking?)

I think you should take your own advice, which I bolded above. You are being very petty over these pictures and petty doesn't look good on anyone.

l9i

Wow.  There's a major superiority complex at work here....

slothiegal

Pennsyl said:

Why hello there!

Nothing like a good, estrogenic feeding frenzy to make you feel nice and superior about yourselves, is there?

You all need to catch your breath and wipe the froth off your mouths (because it is reeeaaaallly unattractive). And then take a hard, long look in the mirror.

To the handful of people who gave me the benefit of the doubt, thank you. You are correct in assuming that there were and are additional, extenuating circumstances - circumstances  that I have no intention of sharing now. I mean - what's the point? This is no place for intelligent, insightful discussion. Not at all. (What *was* I thinking?)

Oh FFS.  Everybody responded with the information they had been given, provided by you.  

And I really, really can not imagine what "extenuating circumstances" there would be for you not to share PICTURES.  I would be so embarrassed if my mother pulled that shit and ask HER to take a long, hard look in the mirror.

KatieinBkln

Pennsyl said:

Why hello there!

Nothing like a good, estrogenic feeding frenzy to make you feel nice and superior about yourselves, is there?

You all need to catch your breath and wipe the froth off your mouths (because it is reeeaaaallly unattractive). And then take a hard, long look in the mirror.

To the handful of people who gave me the benefit of the doubt, thank you. You are correct in assuming that there were and are additional, extenuating circumstances - circumstances  that I have no intention of sharing now. I mean - what's the point? This is no place for intelligent, insightful discussion. Not at all. (What *was* I thinking?)

Or initially, apparently. The old Backpedal rears its head again. 

Guys, guys, we are neither intelligent nor insightful! Not sure when "mind-reading" became a synonym for insightful, or "blowing smoke up people's asses" became a synonym for intelligence. I must've missed that memo.

beethery

Pennsyl said:

Why hello there!

Nothing like a good, estrogenic feeding frenzy to make you feel nice and superior about yourselves, is there?

You all need to catch your breath and wipe the froth off your mouths (because it is reeeaaaallly unattractive). And then take a hard, long look in the mirror.

To the handful of people who gave me the benefit of the doubt, thank you. You are correct in assuming that there were and are additional, extenuating circumstances - circumstances  that I have no intention of sharing now. I mean - what's the point? This is no place for intelligent, insightful discussion. Not at all. (What *was* I thinking?)

I find this absolutely hilarious coming from someone with a wildly undeserved superiority complex who feels entitled to withhold pictures from her in-laws over something as petty as money.

A real rich lady would not be so pressed by something as minor as money she paid for something nice for her kid. Monetary wealth doesn't make you superior.

If you don't feel that this is a good place to come to for input, you can always log off.

beethery

Also, since you clearly enjoy your misguided feelings of superiority, why wouldn't you send them a disc? Rub it in their poor, dirty faces that you could afford a premium photographer.

l-o-motherfucking-l this is cracking me up. WILD.

southernbelle0915

Pennsyl said:

Why hello there!

Nothing like a good, estrogenic feeding frenzy to make you feel nice and superior about yourselves, is there?

You all need to catch your breath and wipe the froth off your mouths (because it is reeeaaaallly unattractive). And then take a hard, long look in the mirror.

To the handful of people who gave me the benefit of the doubt, thank you. You are correct in assuming that there were and are additional, extenuating circumstances - circumstances  that I have no intention of sharing now. I mean - what's the point? This is no place for intelligent, insightful discussion. Not at all. (What *was* I thinking?)

climbingsingle

This is hilarious. 

OP, give the pictures to your daughter's in-laws. There's no reason for you to deny them pictures of their son's wedding. Try putting the shoe on the other foot. 

southernbelle0915

I literally cannot think of one thing that would qualify as an "extenuating circumstance" that would inhibit you from acting like an adult here. 

These are photos of their son getting married!! Do you understand that you're creating drama? Do you understand that they will not like you? Do you understand that treating your brand new son-in-law's parents like crap WILL have consequences? 

Presumably your daughter will be married to this man for a long time. And you're willing to create bad blood OVER A FUCKING CD. If I were your daughter, I would be mortified by your behavior and angry with you for treating my husband's family like crap. If nothing else, think of your daughter.

l9i

How does your daughter feel about the situation?  Is she horrified as she should be?  I would be.  Or does your daughter also think the Groom's family can't pull their weight and aren't worthy?  In the case of the later, I see marital issue approching and fast.

abbyj700

Goes to show you class has nothing to do with money and maturity has nothing to do with age.

slothiegal

abbyj700 said:

Goes to show you class has nothing to do with money and maturity has nothing to do with age.

mrsdee15

esstee33

I feel so awful for this poor bride with such an awful, petty mother shitting all over her newlywed happiness by fucking with her new husband's family like this. 

ohannabelle

Wise advice:

You're not getting younger. (Neither am I, but I'm happy and loved, so don't care much.)

One day, if you're lucky, your daughter will be picking out the home you'll finish your days in. If you're not lucky, your grandchildren will be doing it.

Either way, good luck with that. Your behavior ultimately determines the quality of your own life.

Maybe you should arrange to have the pictures buried with you. That'll show everyone. 

[Deleted User]

Have to agree with other, the only people that were obligated to pay for any part of the wedding were the bride & groom. I think to avoid future issues and ackwardness at family events (and also to avoid putting your daughter & SIL in the middle), it would be best to just make a copy of the disk & give it to her & forget about what they did or didn't pay for with the wedding and go forward and remember that it was a wonderful thing that you were able to contribute what you did to help her have a wonderful wedding day & I'm sure she is very appreciative of it.

crackktheskyy

@Pennsyl :

This is a wedding website so naturally, I'm accustomed to hearing selfish things. After all, the "it's MY day" complex seems to be so pervasive that its becoming normative.

Truthfully, I think you're bringing selfishness to an entirely new and unprecedented level.

I feel so horrible for your DD and SIL.

FWIW, I'm getting married next summer and my parents are very generously paying almost entirely for the wedding. If they ever treated my FILs like this, not only would I decline their offer but we would be having some serious "come to Jesus" conversations because that sort of behavior is abysmal. In fact, knowing how important family is, my parents have befriended my FILs and invite them out to dinner very often. They understand that my FIs family is my family now, too.

Also, I read your other thread. My parents aren't paying for the wedding because they have some sort of excessive control complex and want to run the show down to our attire. They are doing it entirely out of kindness and generosity. I can't believe how much I lucked out. I've always known my parents are exceptionally great, but your thread really puts it into perspective.

Everyone gets pissed about dumb shit: I get it. But the fact that you are just relentless and rather than giving up the gun and saying, "thanks for the perspective everyone. How silly I've been! I've emailed my DD's in law's the photos and we are hosting them all for Sunday dinner at our house to break the ice" you've instead just given in to your own delusions. 

For the sake of your daughter and her new family, I really genuinely hope that you realize how silly this all is and just send the photos -- their child got married too, after all. 

I think the most unfortunate part of all of this is that you're really taking the joy out of a situation that is supposed to be joyful. I remember as a family sitting down when my cousin's wedding photos came in and laughing to the point of tears over so many happy memories! 

Even if you can't get past your own seemingly unjustified anger, I would recommend you still send the photos for the sake of your daughter's happiness and keep it to yourself. Please attempt to realize that what you're doing has the potential to damage not only your DD's relationship with her ILs, but also her relationship with YOU. 

Jen4948

The groom's family aren't "cheapskates" for not paying for anything or giving the couple gifts. They also weren't obligated to pay for or host the rehearsal dinner. The only ones with any obligation to pay for anything are the couple. That you contributed is great, but it doesn't give you any right to make demands of his family or to withhold the photos from them, and doing that makes you look petty and selfish. I'd give his mother copies of the photos and stop bean counting and judging.

traditionallyuntraditional

Pennsyl said:

Why hello there!

Nothing like a good, estrogenic feeding frenzy to make you feel nice and superior about yourselves, is there?

You all need to catch your breath and wipe the froth off your mouths (because it is reeeaaaallly unattractive). And then take a hard, long look in the mirror.

To the handful of people who gave me the benefit of the doubt, thank you. You are correct in assuming that there were and are additional, extenuating circumstances - circumstances  that I have no intention of sharing now. I mean - what's the point? This is no place for intelligent, insightful discussion. Not at all. (What *was* I thinking?)

So what are these circumstances? They must be really out there to behave like this. I think the classy thing to do would be to give up the pictures but then again as others have pointed out money can't buy you class.

mrstrevor3

Pennsyl said:

Why hello there!

Nothing like a good, estrogenic feeding frenzy to make you feel nice and superior about yourselves, is there?

You all need to catch your breath and wipe the froth off your mouths (because it is reeeaaaallly unattractive). And then take a hard, long look in the mirror.

To the handful of people who gave me the benefit of the doubt, thank you. You are correct in assuming that there were and are additional, extenuating circumstances - circumstances  that I have no intention of sharing now. I mean - what's the point? This is no place for intelligent, insightful discussion. Not at all. (What *was* I thinking?)

misshart00

I'm so curious what these extenuating circumstances are. It's a cd. Have they threatened to not give it back (so make a copy)? Have they threatened to have all of the brides family photoshopped out (so what)? Do they want to post them online to complain how tacky the wedding was (then that's a bigger issue than a freaking cd)? I really do not understand this and I'm convinced op is just being petty and vindictive (for who knows what) because she won't even say what these circumstances are.

Kauris

pinkcow13 said:

Well, she just called a bunch of girls a "rude and  judgemental bunch" or something like that in her tux post from over the summer like 10 minutes ago, so maybe she will come back.

I'm mad because I originally answered her question in a NICE way!! Ugh. Waste of niceness.

martha1818

How were we supposed to know about these "circumstances" if it wasn't in the OP? We obviously can only offer opinions on what we know...so I don't see how that makes us mean/judgmental/frothing at the mouth, or whatever the hell that description was?